Choosing a Life Partner

Choosing a life partner
Dlip Singh Wasan, Advocate.

The man is always in a fix and it becomes difficult for him to choose his things from the huge stock spread all over this world. God has given everything to the man, but there is nothing with the man. He has to choose and then he has to obtain that article, thing or the position. Therefore, the man is also at liberty to choose his life partner. When we take birth in a family, our parents, our brothers and sisters are not coming in this world because of our choice, but these are gifts from the side of God and God has given us no choice. A father shall remain our father, a mother shall remain our mother, similarly our sisters and brothers shall remain as such and in spite of our denials, they shall remain attached with us. We are at liberty to choose our career, but here too some limitations are there and we may be wanting to become a doctor or an engineer, but there are chances we may not be getting admission in such courses because of our qualifications and because of the competition in the market. Similarly we may not be having articles of our choice because of shortage of money and other resources with us. And that could be the position when we are choosing a life partner. We must try to choose our life partner carefully because this decision is final and very rarely we have a choice to change this decision. Once married, we shall have to spend life with this life partner in spite of the fact we are not liking the partner, we are not in a position to accommodate and adjust ourselves with the life partner. There could be a marriage of two minds and there could be divorce from the very beginning. It is very difficult to get divorce and once we start divorce proceedings, it is more difficult to withdraw those proceedings and then adjust properly. We have a life partner who shall be helping us in establishing a family, bringing children, then bringing up children, then giving to the children proper education, proper training and then proper adjustment in life and then marriages. We are to establish a living accommodation. We are to establish a position in the relationships, in the society and in the state and we are to get good reputation. We shall have to see that both are working well and they are keeping themselves within the limits of their income and they are also saving for further liabilities which are duly prescribed in each society. Therefore, we must be careful while selecting our life partner and we must have a final choice with care and once we have selected a life partner, we should assure that we shall keep these relations intact and would never break these relations because there should be no choice once there is a marriage. It is final action of us and therefore, we should honour this action of us and must keep our promises alive for the remaining part of this life given to us.
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