Dealing with Emotional Pain

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Dealing with Anger
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 10/05/2006 | Coaching
Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behavior.

Dealing With the Loss of Loved Ones
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 15/05/2006 | Motivational
Dealing with the death of a loved one is our greatest test in life. With positive beliefs we can deal with this event with greater inner peace and strength.

Overcoming Jealousy
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 24/05/2006 | Dating
Bill is very jealous of Efi and does not want her to ever leave the house without him.

Dealing With Criticism and Difference in Opinion
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 09/05/2006 | Coaching
We often become emotionally disturbed during a disagreement, or an argument, or when someone criticizes us or disagrees with us. In such cases our personality usually feels hurt, demeaned and in danger.

Learning To Love Ourselves
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 22/04/2006 | Coaching
Our doubt concerning our self-worth is the main obstacle to our emotional and inter-relational harmony. This doubt is the cause of our greatest fears such as being rejected, laughed at, ignored, unloved, and most of all, of being alone.

A Nature Meditation
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 22/04/2006 | Non-Fiction
You are sitting by a quietly flowing stream in the countryside. It is spring and life is green and moist? Sitting on a rock, the sights and sounds of the flowing water begin to work their mysterious way into your nervous system.

Flowing Through the Labyrinth of the Mind with EFT
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 04/06/2006 | Coaching
When employing EFT with clients, feel that, with each round, we are peeling off layers of emotions and beliefs based on incorrect childhood programming.

What is Meditation?
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 22/04/2006 | Motivational
Meditation can be described in hundreds of ways. Here we will give some brief explanations about this so-extremely-important aspect of human harmony, health and spiritual evolution.

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How do I let this go?
By: Maggie | 13-07-2008
I recently came out of a bad situation at my last place of work. I was horribly treated by a boss whom I previously had a great relationship with. What happened was she used me as an easy scapegoat for something that she totally mishandled. She also brainwashed my other coworkers into believing I did horrible things. She pretty much forced me out of the door by telling me my work was not up to par and that if my work didn't approve that she would fire me.  This is came only a couple months after she told me to apply for a promotion and I completed an advanced degree.  I have since left and gone onto another job (a different line of work) and am so happy at my new place of employment but I cannot seem to let this situation go i.e. I cannot stop thinking about how horrible I was treated. I have always had a problem with forgiveness but believe this situation is magnified as I was not able to control the situation at my old job as I did not want to make matters worse by telling on my boss in my exit interview as I thought this could potentially harm my current employers relation with my old company. Any advice on how to try and start letting the anger I hold go?

I am 17 and when I was 13 I was molested...
By: Miss_Me | 13-07-2008
I am 17 and when I was 13 I was molested by a teacher over the period of a year. I have seen counselors and whatnot but I still don't know the extent of what happened as I (apparently) blocked out memories (eg. only remembering walking into a classroom and then the next thing I know I'll be leaving ten minutes after the bell). I would have panic attacks and nightmares and it would only be then I've get snippets of what happened but I'm doubting my own memory and don't wish to make false claims, if my mind is filling in the blanks incorrectly.Is what he did punishable by law? My school pretty much swept it under the rug because they're seen as an "up there" school and the only thing they did was change my classes and berate him and my parents didn't want me to change schools because of what happened because then "he would have won". I also know that a similar thing happened to a lesser extent to my friend but she was too scared to come forward. Does anyone have any advice? Please? Also, I don't know how to respond properly to sexual contact and have been unable to maintain relationships if the guy moves anywhere past a kiss. I know, in my head, nothing will happen and I'm meant to enjoy it or something but all I can remember is foreign, unwanted hands and feeling absolutely petrified. I know what I'm feeling isn't normal. Help?Also, I don't know how to shake off the stigma that's been attached to me as I told one of my "friends" in confidence why I had changed classes and she told a skewed version of it and now people think I am "an attention seeking, manipulative slut" (their words) and the idea has stuck since then. Any idea how I can set them straight without spilling my personal life? Any advice appreciated.I know this is long - I'm really sorry, but I've never been able to ask anonymously for help before and this isn't even the half of it :(Thanks for any advice, in advance :)

Love sick
By: Strawberry :) | 13-07-2008
What to do when you have a man in your life loving you giving you all the attention you could ever want, sexing you right, taking you everywhere you want to go, (well at least trying to) but then you find that you have no time for yourself because he smothering you with all this love? You then try to tell him to back off and give you a little space he finally do then you end up alone because now he find things to do in his spare time. Now you wishing hooping and praying that one day you can get his time again?

Heartache and children
By: shyandnaked | 13-07-2008
Wat would you do if you had a son or daughter who was angry at your whole family (aunts, uncles, cousins, sisters, brothers,) for a reason you weren't sure of, and they chose to estrange themselves from the family?  What if you had made several attempts to write, call, visit, this person and they wanted no contact and gave you no explanations, and your heart was broken?

I'm in love with a girl who has a man, what do I do?
By: Emmitt01 | 13-07-2008
I work with this drop dead gorgeous girl that i am madly in love with and we are just getting to know each other but she has a boyfriend. She revealed to me that they never go out because he always wants to play sports and she watches him play all day long. I have never had any problems talking to girls until now because I am no where as good looking as she is I mean if I got her it would be the biggest miracle ever. I want to see her happy and never sad but I feel she would be happiest with me, I don't believe in breaking up a relationship unless it is necessary but this is one time I cant stop thinking about her and breaking her and her boyfriend up so she can be mine. What do I do?

Any help?
By: marianny | 12-07-2008
like for real how is the easiest way to make money fast pronto o and being under age. i really need the money for my mom that is sick but i dunno what to do any help?

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How You Can Be Your Own Worst Enemy
By: Kevin Sinclair | 25/07/2008
Today, we have a lot of things that we think of as our enemies; terrorists, pollution, global warming, the shrinking middle class, and many other issues are in the forefront as things that can cause us troubles. However, these are things that in many cases, we only have limited control over.

Seven Great Tips for Building Self Esteem
By: CD Mohatta | 25/07/2008
1. Visualize The Best- If you have ever tried, you may have noticed how difficult it is to break the habit of criticizing yourself. It's like saying, "Don't think of elephants having sex!" But if a bucket is empty you can't get it full by trying to get "the empty" out.

Self Improvement- Role of Quizzes
By: CD Mohatta | 25/07/2008
Self improvement is everyone's goal. All of us want to know about weaknesses and strengths. The awareness about our personality, character, thinking style, emotional reactions, can help us improve ourselves.

Screensavers - Now Get Energized With Inspirational Text
By: CD Mohatta | 25/07/2008
Till now, screensavers have been a tool to enjoy watching scenes. A good screensaver was supposed to have great photographs or animations and good to look at. Not many had thought that screensavers could be used to inspire with text that can re-energize anyone. They are getting made now.

Seven Days For A Winning Edge
By: Kevin Sinclair | 24/07/2008
We can't avoid the headlines and magazine covers sporting photographs of the rich and famous are flaunted at supermarket checkouts. Celebrities seem to live glamorous, fairy tale lives.

Surviving Severe Weather
By: steve kovacs | 24/07/2008
Sometimes simple common sense is what is needed to survive severe weather!

Your Body Craves for Whole Food, Your Soul Longs for a Whole Life
By: Masami Sato | 24/07/2008
As the old saying goes, health is wealth. In this case we refer to spiritual wealth. Whole food is good for health because our body is able to absorb its full nutrients. The same with our life. When we embrace life as a whole, savoring all the experiences and feelings in it, our soul will be able to absorb its full ‘nutrient’, grasping the full essence of our existence, and enabling us to live our life to the fullest. Masami Sato shares the magic of a whole life in this excerpt of her book, ONE.

Ask for that Raise!
By: Kimberly Schenk | 23/07/2008
How we choose to communicate effects every facet of our life. When we use positive communication tools we can expect better outcomes. This true story shows how one man got his needs met using simple communication tools everyone can use.

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The Trapped Bird
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 11/07/2006 | Motivational
One day a bird flew into a room in our house. (It could have just as easily been your house). We wanted to help it to get free. But it was afraid of us.

Magnetize your Mind
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 10/07/2006 | Motivational
The mind does not have its own shape. It takes on the shape of its contents, of our thoughts, beliefs, feelings, needs, desires, habits, expectations etc.

A Fire in the Basement
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 10/07/2006 | Self Help
Some of us prefer to hide our problems from ourselves and others. Because it is too painful to deal with them, we lock them up in our subconscious mind and pretend that these problems or feelings do not exist and that all is fine.

Our Spiritual Light
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 09/07/2006 | Motivational
And, suddenly, there it is. The Self-Creating Light which manifests itself out of the darkness, out of the unmanifest. It comes forth shining alone in the darkness. From emptiness has come forth the ONE, the absolute.

Accepting Ourselves and Others
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 08/07/2006 | Coaching
Love is the ultimate healing energy. We lack giving and receiving love.

Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 08/07/2006 | Coaching
Some fear that if we accept ourselves as we are, that we will have no motive to improve ourselves.

Create Happiness with a Positive Life Outlook
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 08/07/2006 | Coaching
The mind is the molder of our personal and communal world. Every event we perceive through our senses is analyzed, evaluated and registered in the mind as pleasant, unpleasant or neutral.

The Power of Wisdom
By: Robert Elias Najemy | 07/07/2006 | Religion
A person who choses to understand that realities behind the phenomena. To understand the laws that are causing our reality.