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Love Should not Change When Alteration Finds
Author: Dalip Singh Wasan   | Posted: 29-08-2007 | Comments: 0 | Views: 24 | Rating: (50)  (?) 
Love should not change when alteration finds.
Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate.
Love is an instinct which takes its birth in two hearts simultaneously and once it takes it birth it continues in two hearts and does not change when alteration finds. When people say that they love a person, but there is no response from the other side, such a state of affairs cannot come within the zone of love. One sided love is not love. And when a person starts thinking about the religion of the other party, about his caste, about his economic group, about his country, about his education, about his training and about his adjustment in life, we cannot say that such a person can love another. These are the barriers which would never allow him to love the other person because these barriers have been crated by this man and that is the reason, now, even love affairs could take their birth only when the other party comes within the zone and one is free from these barriers.
We have noted hat even love marriages are not always successful and it is all because the barriers which are enumerated above had been concealed from the other party an once these barriers come up and he other party knows about the same, the marriage bond comes to an end or some difficulties start arising in the relations. That is the reason when a son or a daughter comes to his or her parents and tell about his or her love affairs with a person, the first questions which the parents shall start asking shall be, ‘ what is his religion, what are his parents, what are the status of the family, what is the family’ and if all these points suit them, only then the parents shall say that they shall be meeting the other party and if they are from different religions, if the castes are not suiting them, if economic status is lower, if the education status is not suitable and if the earning capacity of the other partner is not suited to them, they would not agree and the child shall have to break his or her heart. We have seen in India where the new couple has to commit suicide or run away from the family. Here in India even love marriages are solemnized by the parents and if they do not agree, they shall not accept the new couple and the bride shall not be allowed to come in the house of her in laws and the bride groom too shall not accepted in the house of his in laws.
So when such barriers are there in these societies, we cannot say that there could be a love marriage. If there are love marriages, those are just choice of the children and approved by the parents and even these settlements cannot be called love marriages. The marriage of two minds has been established only if the barriers are suited to each other and it means the parties are going ahead with the love affairs if the minimum requirements are being fulfilled and when such conditions are there, we cannot say that the parties are coming near to each other because there is love between the two parties.
When we notice that even in countries where people establish marriage bonds on love, they too do not remain settled for life and we have been given to understand that the divorce cases in those countries are on the higher side. When two people who had solemnized love marriage and then they come to the court for divorcing each other, then it must be understood that they were not in true love. True love would not break in spite of all the hurdles of society and the law. They shall remain one and shall live a happy life. But very rare cases are their where love marriages are sound and they live for each other during the whole life coming to their share. But it is not so and that is the reason, we have to say that there are very rare cases where people could solemnized love marriages. Most of the cases are arranged marriages and that is the reason they break when alteration find. The people are still half way and they would rarely come to a love marriage and when they come, they shall not break from each others. And we must accept that love takes its birth intwo hearts simultaneously and such love is everlasting.
The love stories shown to us through films and love affairs through books are not actually based on love because these people start loving to each other just on first sight and series of circumstances. If two people start loving each other because they are looking smart, beautiful and handsome to each other, then such love affairs are not true love. The true love cannot be defined or spoken, but when love is established in between two parties, then a feeling takes its birth which cannot be explained. That is the reason love could not be defined and there is no chance that this feeling shall get an ultimate definition. Two people know that they love each other, but they are not in a position to defin love. Very few people reach such a state.
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