Regret... it can stop you from "living"..IF YOU LET IT !!!!
Regret... I can safely assume that most of us have experienced this emotion.
We often find ourselves saying "only if I had" or "what if ?" , this two letter word " if " that suggests probability has become a source of unrest to most of us. Personally there are times when it becomes battel to win sanity; because at the end of the day I know I cant change the things I have done but my mind refuses to accept that. Regret is something we have to deal with and move on before we can start to live again. What stops us from moving on? What makes us blind to every good thing we have going for us?
I guess regretting is a natural thing for all of us to do… Everyone wishes they could do the right thing all the time...which of-course as we all know is practically impossible but yet we find it very hard to forgive ourselves. It's OK to ponder over the decisions we regret making, I don't think anyone of us are super humans, we are bound to dwell on our mistakes. I have spent countless nights replaying situations in my head and thinking of how I could have done things differently... most of the time it's been a futile and emotionally draining activity because trying to relive the past in your mind never really changes neither the present nor the future
How would you define regret? I would have just said feeling bad about my actions and wishing I could change it. I tried to see if I could get a more accurate definition for the word. These were two which I found interesting as well as complete but put across in two different ways.
1) Regret according to the decision theory may be defined as the difference between the actual payoff and the payoff that would have been obtained if a different course of action had been chosen.
2) Regret is a negative conscious and emotional reaction to personal past acts and behaviors.
The reason I want to obtain a definition for this emotion is to bring about more clarity to the subject. The better we understand a subject the better equipped we are to deal with it.If we have cause to regret we can evaluate the situation and find out if there were alternatives we could have taken which would have lead to a more favorable outcome and whether we would actually go forward with the alternatives. Sometimes the actions required to bring about a more favorable out come may not be something you would be willing to do whatever may be the reason. When we choose such an approach we give our mind direction and focus on present rather than dwell in the past.
One of things I was relived to know was that regret was a conscious emotion even though it's a negative one. If its something we are conscious of its far easier to deal with than if had been a subconscious act. When we are in control of our thoughts, our emotions cannot over power us. Though we humans are highly emotional creatures... we have been blessed with a brain which responds very well to logical and reason.
We can ponder over our decisions not in the attempt to change them but to see if we can do any better the next time around. We just need to do a retrospective study for the future which would be really beneficial .If we can keep that goal in mind we can be more focused on how to succeed next time. So either regret can lead to introspection/self reflection which would be a logical approach or it can lead to guilt and the feeling of hopelessness wrecking emotional havoc and we will only end up losing more than what we already have.
Emotions have a purpose… they are meant to bring about some kind of evolution in us … that can make us better individuals. We need to channel them in away that it helps us rather than become a hindrance in our life. Some people live with the feeling of regret though out their life's … never being able to make peace with the circumstances which lead them to feel this way … hence never able to fully enjoy life. Can u imagine a bird trying to fly with a rock tied to its feet..? The sight would be pitiful… it would be constantly struggling and battling with this burden. The moment the rock falls off, it instinctively soars the skies effortlessly like nature had always meant it to.
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