Wanting Vs. Having

We usually don’t give much thought to the distinction between “wanting” and “having”, we usually just say, “this is what I want, what do I have to do to get it?” But it’s a distinction that makes all the difference in what actually shows up for us in life.

Wanting implies “NOT having” and having implies “no need for wanting”. Both are a state of “being” and as long as you remain in that state of “wanting”, life accepts this “wanting” state as your true desire and so continues to have your circumstances reflect that, i.e. still wanting!

By knowing this, if you truly want to see a change in your circumstances, you need to change your focus so that you “feel” that you already “have” what you want. Through that feeling (which is usually a feeling of joy, abundance and freedom), life will begin to reflect that in the world.

The reason being is that what we think, feel and receive is always a match, so if you behave as though you already have everything you want internally, life will match that in your external world.
The key to this is to have a good attitude no matter what happens, always look for the silver lining. Feeling good in this moment puts you in harmony with life rather than resisting it and that sets you up to receiving the richness you already have inside.

It’s not enough to consciously think something positive, if the feeling remains sour, then that’s what will be the dominant creative force within you. So to receive good things, focus on feeling good things (whatever that may be) and know that you already have it and you will succeed, GUARANTEED.

You may ask, how can this be guaranteed? Because you have already succeeded many times with the things you didn’t know you wanted. This is what happens when you feel fear, for example. When the fear becomes the dominant feeling, you receive the thing you were fearful of. Life doesn’t judge anything as good or bad so it simply gives you whatever is dominant in you.

We often think of things happening in life, in term of luck, something pleasant is “good luck”, something unpleasant is “bad luck”. But “luck” is a cop out and denial of responsibility for what shows up. Everything stems from us either consciously or unconsciously (most of the time it’s unconscious). This is not about blame or any other condemning description, it’s simply about accepting that each one of us is a creator and when we are not aware of what’s happening within us, life seems to happen to us and we “hope” we’ll be “lucky”.

The interesting thing is that in reality the power that it takes to have things show up that are unpleasant is the same power that it takes to have pleasant things show up, it’s really no different. The only distinction is that each of us have learned a mode of operating that we are comfortable with (and for a lot us that mode is one scarcity and struggle). When we make attempts to change that mode, it usually causes no ultimate change because it’s like trying to use a twig to change the direction of a fast flowing river!

So how do you start to live in a way that’s more responsible and deliberate? You do it by looking around you, no matter where you go, and say to yourself that you’re looking for things to feel good about and reasons to feel good and as you do this little by little, you begin to find things and reasons to feel good about.

As you feel good, you notice the good feelings and let the good feelings be there, you begin to let creativity in, you begin to let abundance in, you begin to let success in. Why? Because this is a fundamental principle of the universe, it comes down to the fact that everything is made up of energy that is vibrating at certain frequencies and for anything to be created it must find a match in that vibration.

So, change the way you feel and you’ll change your world!