"Every time I come home from the gym, my husband is waiting for me and goes, 'Well did you talk to anyone about the business?'
It's getting to the point where I don't want to go to the gym anymore. I don't want to accost people there, I just want to work out. I don't know what to do, really. I've told him I don't want to talk about the business at the gym, but he's waiting to ask me each time I come home.
I'm thinking of just quitting the business. I hate this. What should I do?"
Many people do not want to accost people wherever they go. The "three foot" rule is fine for some, but is distasteful for others. Don't use that rule if it doesn't go with your personal style.
In my last business, my first (and best) recruit said "I'll only consider this if you don't ask me to accost everyone I know. I like to keep my social life separate from the business, and if I can't do that, I'd rather not get involved."
And that, 15 years ago, is what started my quest to find methods of reaching out that did NOT rely on going to friends, family or neighbors. Or gym pals. My friend and many others have made gangster money with cold market, their way.
So reps: no more guilt. Don't do the business at the expense of your social life, your friends or family. It's not worth it.
Decide when and how you WILL do your reaching out, and do it. Tell you upline what you are doing, and to please accept that and be supportive of your working style.
If they don't accept the way you'd like to do your business, you can unplug and just carry on yourself. After all, you are in business for yourself, yes? There are many other resources you can find to support your working style.
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