Ignoring your feelings will never allow you to be happy. You have to be honest with how you feel and what's going on in your life before you can ever find a way to be happy. Here are 4 tips to help you deal with your true feelings.

The emotions we experience can be mapped out on an emotional scale, from joy to utter despair. Here's how to figure out where you are on this scale and deliberately begin to work your way up.

I heard from a wife who said: "I really want my husband to listen to me when I express my feelings about his cheating. I have a lot of anger that he is going to need to address. But I have even more pain. And I want him to hear me out so that he will understand just how much this has hurt me. But if I even start to talk about my feelings, he will try to change the subject. Sometimes, if that doesn't work he will abruptly get up and leave. How do I get him to listen?"

I'm amazed how often sharing leads to some feeling that their emotions are not valid or on the flip-side, that theirs are more important than others. Let's clear this up, here and now.

"my husband has been cold and distant to me lately. This weekend, we were out with friends and he made little digs at me several times throughout the evening. When we got home, I told him that the way he acted was no way to treat his wife. Of course, this lead me to ask him if he loved me anymore. And do you know what his response was? He said 'I don't know how I feel about you anymore.' What is that supposed to mean? And what does this mean for my marriage?"