Internet Dating a New Game of Love - Pitfalls and Ways to Succeed in This Game

Internet Dating a new game of love.

I have personal experience combined with the knowledge that some of my friends have done and some are doing internet dating, instead of the old fashioned way of going to the night club in your neighborhood to meet ladies. This knowledge and experience I share with others on a daily basis, and give advice on what sites to recommend, how to approach this activity on internet and how to make a decision in this process. I have both positive and negative experiences to tell about; however in this article I concentrate on some basic elements in internet dating and its basic pitfalls.

You can contact me on sak@ec-ba.com, if you would like some tips and recommendations if you are new to this game or in process of doing it and have come to a situation you do not know what to do.

In my upcoming book “Everybody needs somebody – sometime” you will be able to read some stories and take some experience with you. It is written in a humouristic way and getting you to know what decisions were made and why and at what consequences it brought. This book is soon available in printed version for the net sum of USD 10 or USD 5 as an electronic book. You can write me if you want to buy a copy, or look at my book site www.lulu.com/stig to keep updated when it comes there first.

This article will maybe focus on some general topics, but also draw on my personal experience from regions like Europe and especially Eastern Europe, but also my experience of online dating from other parts of the world, like US and Latin America.

Internet dating has become a more popular form of meeting new people, and to potentially finding your life partner. This form of dating has grown in popularity together with phenomena’s like speed dating and its like. Social networks like Facebook, Linkedin and its likes have also begun to play a role as match makers.
But overall, matchmaking sites have the majority of the market at the moment and will probably do so in the near future as well.
When it comes to regional popularity of these match making sites, it is clear that sites which contain Eastern European people, have a majority in the market. Although US and European communities together with some Asian sites have picked up popularity as well.

The sites contribute to a fair amount of matches which eventually ends up in marriages or as best friends. These success stories are found on the respective sites, or are covered in local media as it sometimes creates a nice story for local newspapers or local community sites to cover.

There are several good agencies on the internet, which takes the job of doing match making a serious business and people centered business. However several sites are there for only one thing, to get hold of your money only.
But at the same time there are several traps to fall into when it comes to dating on internet by the use of the match makers’ agencies around the world.

Scammers are using this arena to get hold of people’s money is increasing and gets more and more innovative in their way of getting your money without you knowing it is a scam.

Taking care of your identity is only one aspect of it; however you have to make sure you are not being a financial victim as well.
Never use free services on the internet that give you the chance to get access to information for no fees at all. These sites are not serious and their income has to come from somewhere, and if no ads on the page, then you know where their income comes from. Having a membership fee based service, enables the match maker to pay for the activity and make an income which can substantiate the business online. This will also ensure you that there are some screening processes of candidates and enable some control opportunities if needed at a later stage.

Another aspect is how you can make sure of the identity of person you communicate with. If the persons registering on the site do not have to pay for their presence, there is a higher chance that the persons are in there for the economic gain of it, and not looking for you as a potential match for life. The accuracy of the information given to the agencies you deal with is important as it is your first level of screening for someone you would like to get to know more about.

Letters between you and the ladies you communicate with is an interesting trap opportunity.
First of all, never fall for the sad stories of illness or out of job stories to lure you into the trap of sending money to them. Yes, it is true, poverty is real, and they do not have lots of money, at least the majority of them. However, given the fact that pride is a given rule in Eastern European culture, a really trustworthy person would not bring this up before you know this person really well. It takes lots for a really candid girl to tell about her problems to you in letters or even person to person until you know her really well.

Secondly, you have to make sure the letters are written by the lady herself and not a semi-professional letter writer in the agency. The agencies have employed several persons as “translators”. It can in some cases show up to be “letter writers”, as they take the personality of registered ladies in that agency, and write letters on their behalf, maybe even without the ladies knowledge at all.
Especially this is a known fact in agencies where you pay pr email you send to the ladies, as it is in the interest of the agency to have as many email correspondences as possible between the parties, as this generate income for them.

First of all, you should request real time communication with her, like phone calls or even video conference with them instead of only emails/letters with the ladies. At least you will know it is the lady you talk to, and you will be able to validate the interest by this lady. And best of all, you get to have a sneak preview of her and learn more about her.

Another potential trap is the agencies offering on their sites to send gifts and presents to your girl in this region. Some agencies can do some scams here, and the prices through the agencies are some times as high as 5 times the ordinary price you have to pay, if you were there yourself and bought it locally. Sometimes, the ladies even do not get to see this present, or the cash is split between girls and agencies instead of the gift.

How Serious a online dating agency is, comes down to how they deal with the ladies registered in their system. In the end it is trust between parties as well as clean business ethics.

So, I have told lots of negative things regarding internet dating. This is not to pull you off the idea of internet dating, on the contraire. I would encourage you to do so, but only be careful to protect your identity and to make sure you are not being a victim for scams.
I can personally recommend this type of dating as I have done it myself, and I found my wife through this channel. I have been happily married with her for over a year now, and we live a good life together. I am often visiting my new parents and brother and sister in law from her country as well, and enjoy the new family in my life. It is possible to succeed with this modern type of dating, and the chance is you can find the right girl out there for you, however proceed with caution, and learn from others experience is the best tip I can give you.

So when it comes to the serious part of your online dating, and to bring it to the real life meeting in the end. What should you do and how should you do it? There is no single recipe for this, however there are some golden rules to learn and to follow.
It is very important on how you plan for your first meeting, getting to know about the culture if it is another country, or even to get to know about the place she is from. Learn about how they live and what is expected from you. Some sites really can provide some valuable tips on these issues, as well as it can be worth to do some intelligence before you travel.
Make sure you know about things to be aware of when coming to the country and place you will visit. All things you have to prepare for any journey of course, but more important prepare for what to expect when it comes to accommodation, restaurants, language and so on.

Then finally, I would like to wish you the best in your Endeavour to find a good friend, life partner through the exiting new way of dating – online.