Patrick Swayze: Beyond The Grave With Phil G

This conversation occured on Monday the 16th of November 2009. (Original recording is retained). Words in italics are Phil's voice, responses are in normal text.

A few moments ago, I thought he was around and I just started thinking of a song "I've had the time of my life" from the film "Dirty Dancing", and I just felt like he was saying the song title.

That was me at the time of my life.

I feel like he's got no regrets, and his life was the time of his life because it was all so unexpected. What happened with his life, he just went from one thing to the next. It was all a bit of a surprise, and he liked that. He liked not knowing what would happen next.

It was an accident getting into an acting. Acting was an accident. It's put down that I did this acting thing and worked my way up, but the whole thing was an accident. I wasn't going to be an actor, and more than what you'll find if you look up on the Internet. It wasn't just one day: "I'll go into acting". It was a random comment from a friend, which made me think that I might be able to pick up a few chicks!

"Dirty Dancing" was a lucky break. Just a lucky break. I wasn't expecting it. You know, no-one thought it was going to be anywhere near as big as what it was. We just thought it was a fun movie to make. A fun movie, we had a good time. There was a little moral in there but I never expected it to be that big. No one did!

Gee if you knew the formula to success in the movies wouldn't that make life easier. You do something else which you think is going to be grand, but it's not.

When you passed away, no-one brought up the film "Keeping Mum".

It's British, It's a British film! America doesn't talk about Britain! What do you expect!

So did they talk about that film in Britain when you passed away?

Yes, but they didn't talk about me much, because I was American.

You mention, you would have liked to have worked with Rowan Atkinson again.

Yeah he's cool. He was cool. He was good fun, he was good company, Sharp mind, very astute mind. Very calculating. I'm not like that. I read the lines and then I FEEL the lines. I think I've done my fair share of getting the lines wrong but I've always got the feeling right. Not Rowan, no. He's so calculating. I bet when he's having dinner, everything laid out just right on the table. Not me man, not me. Just bog in, don't wait!

Jennifer? Is that her name? Is that the girl's name?

Yeah, that's her name. She was a cute little fox. I liked her, she was fun. She was as shy and innocent in real life as she was in the film. What you saw was her. Just fantastic. She didn't need to act. She was just her. Great. Loved working with her.

I think I did better films than that (Dirty Dancing). I think I did better acting on better stories than that. But you take the good with the bad, you just take it as it comes. Roll with the punches.

What about your time in "Ghost"?

Now there's a special movie. They don't remember me for the message - they remember me for the scene with the clay. ( Laugh) the clay scene! Yes, that's what they remember.

I talk about your film "Ghost" a lot to help people connect with the afterlife. Did you believe in afterlife contact?

No. I was intrigued by the script when it was given to me. And I thought it was an interesting role. I didn't really get into the whole afterlife contact thing. Demi was, yeah, she was into it. I wasn't.

Did you change as you went through the film?

It made me question things. It made me wonder. I don't think I ever quite believed it, but it did make me wonder.

So when you passed away, was it a surprise that people in the afterlife can contact those in the physical world?

Yeah. It was a surprise. It won't be a surprise for Demi though.

So have you tried to contact anyone?

Not particularly. But I did try to contact Demi just for fun. I actually did that crouching thing beside her. You know for a moment there, she wondered. Just like in the film. But that's okay.

So have you gone to your family?

No, no, they, they don't get this. It's okay. No hassle.

Let me explain something for those reading this and not knowing what I'm meaning. My son wants to be a movie director and a director who passed away a few years ago often comes through to him, mostly by me, to give advice and I know it's real because I've had lots of verification , and I've had to go on the Internet several times to confirm the verifications, and know it's real.

Would you ever try to help an actor, guide them in their career?

I don't know if I CAN. Someone who wants to be an actor has to have a shell. They have to have this barrier around them, this protective layer in order to be able to do what they have to do. To be able to open up to afterlife contact you need to let your barrier down, as you would know. So it's very difficult to help an actor. What I can do, if someone believes in afterlife contact and wants me to help them in their acting, then I'm happy to do so and let them FEEL the role better. See, that's all I ever did. I just felt the role. I just read the story and I felt it, man. I just felt it, I just I just I was in there. I got the story. And then the words just rolled out.

I never need a much directing because, I just put my soul into the feeling that was being conveyed by the story. I got right into the story. So if somebody is really feeling the role and feeling the character, and they want a hand, then the fact that they're open to their feelings means that they can connect with someone who's passed away. Probably without even realising it's happening. So in that sense, they can have this feeling come to them that they wouldn't expect or know, and out of the blue I can give them an idea of what they can do, to do something different. So if anyone wants that kind of help, I'm happy to do it. Just tell them how to do it.

Okay, so I'll mention that at the end of the article.

Yeah do that. But I don't think anyone would consciously go okay, come and tell me how to act, but I can get into their soul, into their heart when they're into the story.

I liked being liked. I didn't chase fame. Didn't need fame, but I liked it.

So you were balanced (about fame)?

Yes.

Okay, I get it. Family?

They accepted, she accepted fame, didn't particularly like it. Preferred to stay out of the limelight. Will continue to stay out of the limelight in the future. Has been asked to represent me, but she's declined. She wants to remain private. People will understand and respect that.

Is there anything you would like me to do or say, if the opportunity came up to talk to her?

You know I'm not so sure she would want to. Or believe it. She pretty much thinks I am gone. It was hard for her, but at the same time, she knew. So it wasn't as hard. I think she's accepted that am gone, which is a bit sad. I would like to still be in her life.

(I feel the love and care and immense pride with what she wants to do, is nothing to do with what he does. He wants her to be her own person.)

I was just so tired at the end. The tiredness was the bad part. I can pretty much put up with everything else, but I really wished I wasn't so tired. It made it so difficult. And made it difficult to be positive with other people. I tried to be brave and put on this happy face. The problem when you're so tired, people can see through it. And that makes me sad.

I had someone else come through this morning, that had a similar situation to you. I thought you were both meant to come through together pretty much for the same reason, to help others cope. Her reason is to help others. Is there anything you can say to others, to help them?

Man, I don't know if you can. You deal with it . It's not something you want to deal with. I was just so tired. You don't want to give up, but you do give up.

This other girl said about helping others, about doing things and enjoying life and everything what life has to offer would help. But not to live every day as if it's your last.

Yeah, I'd agree with that. I don't think you should live every day as if it's your last. It's too depressing. I agree, what was it? "Live life to the full each day". Yes I agree with that. So if that helps people yes, live life to the full. You don't know if you've got a day, or ten years, or, you don't know. They (doctors) don't understand what happens with these things.

Are you happy with your life? Were you happy with what you did?

Yeah. ...It changed direction. It's a lot different to what I expected, but I'm happy. I think I did good. I think I helped people. I had fun. I had a blast, actually! Got to see a bit of the world. Had a good time.

Did you have the time of your life?

Yeah I did!, I did.

You write a nice song in dirty dancing, what's it called , "She's like the wind?"

Yeah. Gee that's what I thought she was like. She was like the breeze . She floated through the year.

Did you ever like her romantically?

No, although I had a great respect for the place she was at mentally. She was at a more calm place, she was mentally more centred, more content. Possibly more powerful than me. She was happy with herself. I wasn't really happy with myself. I wanted more. I could really relate to the guy in "Dirty Dancing". I felt I could have done more. But you know, when it all boils down to it, I DID have the time of my life.

Okay, anything else you want to say?

No man. Uh. Gee, Tell people how to contact or how to recognise contact or whatever, with people in the afterlife. Gee you're brave. You're preaching to the converted when it comes to those who believe you, and you're pushing a rock uphill when it comes to everybody else, so, good luck to you.

Does it really matter? I suppose you have to do what you believe is right.

I didn't ever set out to do this! I just felt I had to (share my simple discovery)

Yeah, understand that. You go where you feel you're going to hit the ball. Man, if you hit a home run, good on yu.

Okay.

The reference to how to know when you're being contacted by someone in the Afterlife: please visit Phil's website www.philg.net.au for more information