Power of the Word

Words possess magic power over us. They make all the difference in our life. That is why we should devote enough attention to the words we say to each other. This article deals with the words that are light and sparkling, bright and shining. They are the most long-awaited words compliments. So, if you want to praise someone or just say something pleasant, mind some rules. Avoid generalities. We all consider ourselves to be unique and special. That is why saying some general thing about the person may be negatively accepted by that person, inasmuch as he or she will feel being underestimated. Try to be quite specific when communicating with anyone. It is good if you manage to remember some little details from previous conversations and then ask something relevant. It demonstrates your care and attention. Point out something particular and specific and explain why it has impressed you so much. Such attention is sure to touch the heart and even mind of everyone.

Find what you really like. It gives you three advantages: you will be sincere in your praising; you will get to know this person closer. Besides you will never be mistaken as you express only your own opinion. It is always easier to say what you really think and feel rather than being dishonest and saying something you do not truly believe in. If you get acquaint with some person and find that this person has, for example, some nice feature or you might be impressed by his or her dress style, do not hesitate to say it aloud. However, mind etiquette rules. Do not be too assertive when saying compliments of such kind and think well to whom you say compliments. Maybe the atmosphere is too formal for doing things like that, that is why you have to consider all factors.

Use "open" sentences. Open questions involve the person into the conversation and make him a participant of the discussion. Very often people tend to speak more than listen; they enjoy being in the centre of discussions, expressing their viewpoints and sharing their thoughts. On the contrary, they ignore others and do not feel like listening. That is the option which leads to failure, inasmuch as a person you are talking to also wants to express personal attitudes and thoughts. Find the feature overlooked by the others. Every self-respectable person knows his strong points and to hear you repeating it will not get him interested. That is why try to find really specific traits of person and speak aloud about them. Pay attention to character features: People are more pleased when surroundings value their character traits and intellectual skills, but not only their appearance. It is indeed so. Everyone likes if someone speaks about his unique sense of humor.