Matthew Ferry

How do you love the work that you do? So often the work that you are doing doesn't feel like it is necessarily your life's purpose. And yet, you were drawn to this work. If you're interested in finding work that is your life purpose, and you don't feel like you are there yet, there is a way to get there. You need to actually begin to accept, appreciate, and honor the work that you do.

I got an e-mail in from one of my clients asking this question, "How do I let go of the destructive need to please others over myself?" She says some examples of this. She says, "When I was in high school, I secured a part in the play, and then my friends got kicked out of the play. And so I walked out with them. In going to college, I wanted to go to Stanford. My dad didn't know Stanford. He wanted me to go to MIT. So I chose MIT just to please my father.

So what actions can you take today to immediately take advantage of the power of gratitude? The first thing that I'd recommend is something that I recommend to all of my coaching students when they come to me. That is the 10/10 visualization process.

I completed my first marathon back in 1999 and I remember calling my mom and saying to her, "Oh my gosh! I completed my first marathon! It's such a victory! It's so amazing!" And she's like, "It is! It's huge! It's so amazing, congratulations!" And I said, "Yes, especially since my knee has been hurt ever since I was a young kid." And she's like, "Really? Your knee was hurt? How was your knee hurt?" And I'm like, "Mom, my knee, remember?

God helps those who help themselves. You ever heard that before? I notice with some of my clients are visioning, visualizing, writing out their goals and affirmations, but they're not taking any action. They aren't getting the results that they want.

There are physical ways to combat stress. There's exercise, diet, meditation, things like that. 100 percent, yes. Do all that. But I'm not going to focus on those. The most effective way to combat stress is just to realize that stress is an illegitimate response to danger that doesn't even exist in your life.

In life coaching, your coach simply wants the best for you. But your mind is not designed for change. Your mind is designed to keep things the same. Your mind is designed to keep things going in a similar direction, because your mind is designed to keep you safe.

As a life coach, my job is to help you remove barriers to happiness and success. One big barrier is your mind. I often ask my new clients, "Have you ever considered that your mind is not your friend?" Most are stunned by the idea of it. Your mind, which I call The Drunk Monkey, is just a biological mechanism designed to keep you alive longer. Your mind's job is to help you to avoid danger or become better.

As a life coach who has had more than 8300 over the last 16 years, I can tell you with certainty that three simple shifts in your point of view will cure your recession blues, lift your spirits and get you back on the road to a personal recession recovery plan.

All the top sales people who are committed to having a fulfilling experience in life are in a life coaching program. Well, I say all and that is a bold statement. I'll explain.