Paul Friedman
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I wrote Lessons For A Happy Marriage: http://lessonsforahappymarriage.com to save marriage relationships from the marriage crisis in our country; it's about saving children. Let's stop divorce. The problems go beyond the failures of marriage counselors. My life's mission is to eradicate the need for divorce through focused education. If you are married, please tell your soul mate, "I love you."
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Divorce mediation almost sounds good, like a smooth transition from being married, to a new life without the drama of marriage problems. It sounds like a very humane and civilized way for a couple to take the sophisticated, gentle approach towards creating devastation and a lifetime of pretending everything is fine. In reality, divorce mediation is nothing like what it sounds like. I know; I was a divorce mediator.
Divorce mediation almost sounds good, like a smooth transition from being married, to a new life without the drama of marriage problems. It sounds like a very humane and civilized way for a couple to take the sophisticated, gentle approach towards creating devastation and a lifetime of pretending everything is fine. In reality, divorce mediation is nothing like what it sounds like. I know; I was a divorce mediator.
"We stay married just for the kids..." I can't tell you how many times I heard that from really good people; couples who were willing to endure almost anything for the sake of their children. If you are making a pact just to live together, why not come up with a pact that creates happiness?
It is not entirely your fault that your marriages have not worked. If someone were to tell you, "Oh, go ahead, you can fly it, you don't need any training, everybody flies 747's," you would be in a heap of trouble. Our culture neither supports marriage nor advocates any kind of realistic training for married couples.
Marriage counseling is one of the most ridiculous industries in our country. Marriage issues cannot be solved through marriage counseling but they can be solved by married couples. Here are five simple ways to resolve marriage issues that you can start using right now.
To have people say, "There goes a happy married couple," all you have to do is learn what marriage is all about and follow the rules of success.
It is incorrect to believe that your marriage is over even after your spouse has filed for a divorce. Remember that the person you are married to was someone who chose you and who you chose to spend the rest of your life with.
In this day and age the term "grounds for divorce" has become somewhat passe. In most states all you need to do to get a divorce is file as "irreconcilable differences." But most people who get a divorce only get one because they don't know what else to do. The resources that most people are exposed to for helping their troubled marriage are simply inadequate because marriage is not understood.
Divorce mediation can be more than just helping people split property and create child-sharing programs. A good mediator will look beyond the current situation a couple is going through in order to help them see the possibility of remaining together.
If you want to save your marriage, the question of how you are going to be dealing with your spouse is of paramount importance. There are different methods that have been tried and have proven to be failures time and again. Let's go over those failed methods which at first seem so tempting but prove to be disastrous.
