SmarterRelationships

We are a little crazy after a big break up. Slow down. It takes time to get over the craziness associated with this kind of breakup.

It has been stated that it takes 10,000 hours to become a true master of your chosen field. Interestingly, though, you can get better after about 10 hours.

The effect of substance abuse on relationships can be overwhelming. One of the most important things to know is that help is available and how to get it. Whether a child, a parent, or a spouse or anyone else we love, there is help and it is generally effective. It's called family intervention and is available throughout the country.

We need predictable and meaningful patterns in our relationships. Rituals allow us to act in ways that don't require a new decision process each time we encounter each other. Mundane daily rituals are necessary, but not sufficient. More complex rituals also need to be in place.

At some point we have to shut down the work. Turn of the computer, the phone and just be. Many of us have become Human Doings instead of Human Beings.

If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no!

Too many of us have a tough time with dear old mom and dad. Whether there is animosity for actions during your childhood, your wedding, the way they've been with your spouse, partner or kids, parents can really get to us. For some of us the relationship was good once and only went south recently.

Sex can often be grown up play. It's not just for procreation to the great majority of us. It's highly meaningful play. But we must find additional play that is meaningful, mutually satisfying and somewhat predicable.

Research on relationships indicate you're likely to meet Mr. or Miss Right through a friend or family member's introduction or you will meet through common activities, like being in the same class, shopping at the same grocery, or being on the same team. Proximity is a critical piece of finding The One.