From Child to Adult

According to many psychological investigations, it was proved that surrounding where child is rowing influences very much child’s behavior and way of thinking. Till child becomes a teenager, he perceives a lot of information about the world from his parents, especially at early age. He begin to cope parents’ behavior because thinks that such behavior is the right one. Such thoughts appear because parents are the only  authority for child. If child sees that parents drink a lot, he probably will do the same in future. If aggression is a constant component of parents’ relationships, child also will think that aggression is normal in relationships. Till the age of teenager child can’t separate clearly difference between good and bad.

In the brining-up of the child parents often use such method as punishment and don’t realize that this methods is far from effective one. Punishment only suppresses child but doesn’t explain him that something was wrong. The effect from punishment is temporary, in future suppressed emotions or action will certainly come back.
The right method in child\d behavior is to establish strong connection between child and his parents, and it is possible to begin to do it by means of holding and cradling. It gives child the feeling that he or she is protected. When child with this feeling grow up, they are more adaptive to surrounding world.
It is also essential to explain children when they are small the meaning of the world “no”. It is important that child realizes completely what it means. It even would be better to demonstrate the meaning by means of some example.
When child becomes older, the system of rewarding should be introduced. It will help child to understand that nothing in thins life is given free, everything should be earned.
As for the teenagers, it is really difficult period, because child wants to be adult and independent and wants to prove it to everyone. During this period parents should be very careful with their behavior and also be very honest and open with child, It makes him understand that parents treat him or her life adult.