5 Ways To Get Back At Your Ex And Get Your Ex Back At The Same Time

Relationships are like fragile flowers: they have to be maintained constantly in order for them to flourish and reach their full potential. As relationships are fragile, they can be very prone to break ups. If you were just involved in a relationship break up, you could be feeling angry or resentful towards your ex now. These feelings might make you consider getting back at them to show them how much pain they've caused you. If deep down you still have strong feelings for your ex, these will obviously override the temporary "bad feelings". Thus here are 5 tips that are not only useful to get back at your ex but also are necessary for getting your ex back as well by repairing the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them.

1 - Be strong. No one likes someone who's clingy, especially in a relationship with someone you liked. If you've been acting desperate, clingy or begging your ex to take you back, stop! These feelings obviously send the signal to your ex that you're not over him/her. By stopping these feelings it shows your ex that you've moved on, while they will realize that they have not.

2 - Minimize communication. This is the step that many people struggle with coming to terms with since it is so hard to do, but it is probably one of the most important when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Cut off all forms of communication from your ex, phone, instant messaging, email, even go to the extent of stop rereading old text messages sent from them. Not only will this will allow your ex to rely on memories of your relationship to be the only basis of his/her thoughts, but it will allow you to spend some valuable time away from him/her.

3 - Be flexible. Don't act all high and mighty with your ex. Don't force them to move out or to come to pick up their stuff by a certain date, especially if you have thoughts of getting back together with him/her. It's important to go with the flow, sympathize and be flexible. Your ex will have seen the nasty side of you which might have caused the break up, so if you show this sensitive side, it will surprise him/her and give them some thought to reconsider you as a partner by staying connected with you.

4 - Get out of the house! Don't let your feelings eat you up. Plan a party or get together with your mates. Develop a social network again and start enjoying single life again. Enjoy this time and think of it as all the stuff you couldn't have enjoyed as much when you were in a relationship. Funnily enough, it will make you appreciate your ex more and chances are, your ex is doing the same thing. There's no pressure to date or even notice the opposite sex at all. Remember, it's about enjoying yourself, not feeling obliged to chat up the ladies or flirt with the guys if you don't feel like it. It's all about you and you enjoying the company of good friends.

5 - Simply be yourself. You might have been obliged to change to some extent in your relationship. You might have felt that there was too much compromise in your relationship. Think about it: your ex got in a relationship with who you were at the start. Start doing the things you used to when you were single and enjoy being yourself. This is your ultimate comfort state and if or when your ex sees you as you are, this will make them remember the "you" they fell in love with in the first place.