Dealing With Friends When It Is Time To Be Moving On - The Break Up Is Over

Posted: Dec 02, 2009 |Comments: 0 |

Most of the time moving on after a break up is over can be heartbreaking.  It is never painless unless you are so happy to be out of that situation that you cannot wait to get on with your life with someone else.  A break up can mess up your whole life.  Everywhere you go and everything you see tends to remind you of your ex.  If you have the same friends, your going out with them drives you crazy because it is hard not to be reminded of them.  

One of the biggest things you will have to get over is coming face to face with your family and friends.  If your ex lover hit it off with your family, you are going to get fed up with all the questions about your relationship.  You have to tell them you are moving on with your life, the relationship is over, and that you do not want to be talk about your ex and the past relationship you once had.  

It may be hard to believe but sometimes it is hard for some family members to deal with.  Some of them will keep bringing up that certain person just hoping, wishing, and praying that the two of you will work it out and some how get back together again.  You can tell them,  I am moving on why can't you, the break up is over, enough said.  Soon they will get it because they are family and they love you to much to get bring it up.  The worse is yet to come because it is going to be even harder to deal with the situation when it comes to your friends.


If you did not have many friends in the same click, then this should not much of a problem.  But if the two of you kicked it with the same partners, then your hanging out with those same friends is going to be some what awkward for a while. Now here is the real problem!  What if your ex wants to kick it with those same friends, also.  There is a real good chance of you two running into each other when the both of you wants to hang out with that group of friends.  This does not mean that you have to stop seeing the same friends.  It is going to be hard to keep your friendship with some of them once you and your ex has broken up.

As sad as it seems, when you say, your moving on, the break up is history, you will soon have to give up some of those friendships you have started.  It is possible that you and your ex can still be friends with some of them within the click.  You can and should stay in connected and keep the relationships with those who are close to you and your ex can do the same with those they are close to.  Although this will be painful, it is going to be easy on everyone else because they will not have to choose between the two of you, which one to hang with and which one to stay away from.

For the most part the moving on break up period is just too dang hard when you are surrounded by close friends and so many hang out spots to go to.  May be you can take a vacation to get away from it all. You know, the same clubs and people you hang around get away from it.  Take a trip with somebody who is not caught up in the situation; some one who is a friend of yours and not your ex.  This will give you some time to think about your life and where to go from here. Now that you have made up your mind that you are moving on and the break up is over you can take some time to get away from it all.  Who knows you might be glad you did.

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