Does My Ex Want To Get Back With Me? Be Careful

If this was my situation, here's how I would make a guess. I'd see if my ex was giving me a little more attention. Maybe taking me up on offers of going out and hanging out together. Or perhaps even doing a bit of flirting. If I picked up those types of signals, I would allow myself to start hoping. But I'd avoid being too eager. I'd want to answer the question "Does my ex want to get back with me?"

I know, these seem to be clear indicators that your ex may be considering trying again with you. But that doesn't mean you should throw caution to the winds and dive back in! Remember, a little mystery and challenge - otherwise known as playing hard to get - is your best friend at this point in getting your ex back. If you're too gung ho about it, your ex will pick up on that and perceive it as desperation. You will find yourself losing value and losing ground all over again. After pushing yourself to play hard to get when you really wanted to beg and plead, you don't want to undo all your hard work in building yourself up.

Something that will help you after a breakup is the natural feelings you're both having - you miss each other. You and your ex have shared so many experiences and memories - even more so if you've been together for a year or more. This is a point in your favor. Still, the fact that there was a breakup means that there are negative feelings and memories, too. Just like you, your ex is probably entertaining the same thoughts - "Does my ex want to get back with me?"

Be careful, now. It does happen at times that an ex only wants attention, and may be using the fact that you obviously still love them just to get it. This is painful to realize, but maybe better to find out early rather than late. If you want to avoid this very unpleasant byplay, check and see whether they have any other possible love interests developing. If they don't, then be at least a little cautious before believing their interest is genuine. If their behavior seems to send mixed messages, their intentions are probably mixed as well. Actions speak louder than words. They may even want to get revenge. Make sure you get some proof of your ex's intentions before trusting them too far just now.

This kind of thinking might seem heartless and cold, but the situation is unfortunately all too common. Instead of simply wondering "Does my ex want to get back with me," take care of yourself a little and get a sense of what you might be getting yourself into. Playing hard to get is really the best strategy in any case. If your ex sincerely wants to get back together with you, it will help you win his or her heart. And if your ex is only leading you on, it will protect you from getting hurt while they pretend to get back together with you.