How Can I Bring My Ex Boyfriend's Feelings To The Surface?

Are you sure that your ex boyfriend still loves you? Are you positive that deep down inside he must still feel something for you and that there is no way that he has just gone from loving you to hating you? How can you bring that love to the surface? You have tried everything that you know of to try to get him to admit that he still loves you but all you receive for your trouble is rejection and hatred. How can you get the man that you love to fall in love with you again?

You are right in feeling that your ex boyfriend still loves you. Love never dies and the love that you shared wasn't a mistake. The love that you had for each other is something special and it can be brought to the surface if you know what to do. While most experts would suggest that you sit down with him and talk about the problems that you had in your relationship and attempt to resolve the issues that lie between the two of you, often these methods just make matters worse. You see, by confronting him you are invalidating his feelings and violating his wishes to end the relationship. Sometimes guys can act like spoiled children and right now he is basically throwing a temper tantrum. Confronting him will only make things worse and trying to force him to see that he still loves you will only make him build a bigger wall around his heart and make it more difficult in the long run to get him back.

He Says He Doesn't Feel Anything? - It might sound hurtful to have your ex boyfriend tell you that he doesn't love you anymore or that he hates you. His hateful words are not his true feelings. You can count on that. Often a guy might say that he doesn't feel anything anymore or that your relationship was just a mistake. Try not to take these words to heart... try not to focus on them or believe them as being the truth. Sure, he might not feel anything or he might be forcing himself not to feel anything but again, he is just acting out.

Many guys know that the opposite of love is not hate. It is apathy or not feeling anything, so he will try to use this against you to hurt you and push you away. Just remember that all of these words are words that he will regret someday and he will eat those words once you do get him back. Keep in mind that it's not about keeping score but count on it that there will come a day when you can tell him that you knew that he was just acting out because you hadn't been respecting his boundaries by giving him the space and time to sort through his feelings and that you were strong enough to see through these things and know in your heart that he still loved you. You are strong enough to believe in your love for each other and your strength is a testament to your love for your boyfriend.

Wait Him Out - Instead of trying to shove it down his throat or force him to admit that you were the best thing that ever happened to him, give him some time and space to be alone with his thoughts. Wait him out for a little bit for the smoke to clear and for him to forget about the hurtful things said and done in the wake of your breakup and begin to remember how much you really did love him. Let time do its healing work and avoid contacting him or any mutual friends or family for a while as you get yourself back together in preparation for actually getting him back.

It is a good idea to work on your self confidence and your confidence in your relationship as you both get your lives back together after the breakup. After all, it has been a stressful and emotional time and there is a very good chance that you are in no shape to actually get him back right now. Take care of yourself and get your mind right. Maybe do some shopping and prepare yourself for what you will say and do to actually get him back together. Even though you know that he still loves you it is going to be necessary to be at the top of your game and look great and be prepared to dominate the situation when the time does come to get him back and break down the wall that he has built around his heart.

Like A Ton Of Bricks - When the time is right he will either contact you to test the waters or you can contact him when you have yourself together. It will be time to really knock his socks off after some time has passed so be ready. Look your best, stay upbeat and positive and be as friendly as possible without giving him any confirmation that you still care or still want him back but be the woman that any man would die for. Be the fun loving, happy woman that he once knew and make him regret his decision to break up with you.

While it might be tempting to come on like a freight train and blatantly try to seduce him to bring out the passion and desire in his heart, it is actually more effective to play a little cat and mouse game. The constant retreat and then little advances can and will increase the tension and passion between the two of you. After all, you have a history and even though he dumped you there is still love for you in his heart. He will still feel that he owns you or has a part in your life well after the breakup. Use that to your advantage and keep him at arms length and keep the tone friendly while being a bit aloof at the same time. Make him want you and give him just enough so he will want more... that is the key.

You may be tempted to want to almost force him into agreeing to getting back together but keep in mind that this is his decision so it is going to have to be him that asks you for another chance. Sounds too good to be true? While you might feel that he is in control of the relationship or he might even feel that he is in control, this is one way to regain control of your ex boyfriend from here on out so you never have to worry about him leaving again. There will come a day when you can say that it was his decision to come back to you and when done correctly not only will you get him to admit that he loved you all along but you will have the upper hand in the relationship.