When a breakdown in partnership or marriage between the parties occurs, you have to remember that there are always two people involved in the dispute, and therefore two sides to the story. Yours and your partners. That's important because both sides of the conflict have an equal right to be heard and understood.
When people enter into a relationship together they need to be aware that consideration and respect for the other person need to be a priority in maintaining a stable and long lasting relationship together. Give and take is the foundation of a successful relationship.
What you want at any particular moment in time need not necessarily be the same as what your partner wants. This is the point where consideration and understanding are called in to play. This is the crunch. We need to ask ourself at this point if we are being selfish in wanting our own way. Is there another way?
Sometimes it is difficult to see ourselves as others see us. That is, objectively. It can be useful here to consult a close friend or colleague whom you can confide in and trust, and ask their opinion of the situation. Unbiased opinion can make us see the error of our ways and avoid a potentially explosive confrontation, which will be in no ones interest.
Turning from any course of action you have set your mind on can be very difficult indeed, but it can be done. Self sacrifice is seen by some as defeat, humiliation or weakness, but the reality is, nothing is further than the truth.
It shows strength of character, because it is difficult to do for most people. Ask yourself if you are even willing to try? If your attempts to reach a compromise solution meet with a rebuttal the first time you try to make up, try again. Then try a third or fourth time, and more, if necessary. It just depends how much you want your ex back. Only you can answer that question.
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