How To Avoid Your Former Lover Hating You More

Posted: Nov 01, 2010 |Comments: 0 | Views: 102 |

There are many articles that show you ways of trying to get your former lover back.  However, it is also important that you know how to avoid making your former lover hate you more, and, driving them further from you, so that you lose any hope of reconciliation.

After a break up you need to be careful what actions you take in your efforts to get your former lover back. If you aren't careful you may find more ways to get them hating you instead of loving you.

The following are some actions that you should not take if you are ever to have any hope of a reunion.

1. Do not call them several times a day.
This will tend to annoy them more and may cause them to block your number.

2. Do not send them constant messages letting them know how much you miss them.
Sending your former lover many emails and text Messages can do more harm than good. Leaving notes on their car windshield is also not a good idea. Sure you may get your former lover's attention with all these messages, but it will also incur their rage.

3. Do not remind them frequently of promises made to you.
Things always change depending on circumstances.  By constantly reminding people of things that were said, could only be reminding them how good an idea it was to leave you.

4. Do not Follow or Stalk them.
Following and stalking your former lover will only make them think you are crazy and you may end up scaring them. This may also cause police intervention.

5. Do not bother their friends.
Do not ask them constantly how they are doing or try to find out where they are going to be in the hopes of meeting your former lover.  They will more likely trying to get rid of you.

6. Do not try to call their new love interest.
Do not harass the new flame by telling them that you are the real love of your former lover and it is only a matter of time before you are both back together.  This will more likely end up making both of them hate you and could end up making them become closer because of the troublesome action your are taking.

7. Do not call their parents.
Do not try to be their parent's best friend. You may only get the parents mad at you or drive a wedge between your former lover and their parents. This will only give your former lover more reason to hate you.

8. Do not date their best friend.
Dating your former lover's best friend in order to make them jealous, may end up ruining another of their relationships. Eventually, the best friend will realize that you are just using them and will drop you immediately.

9. Do not call their workplace.
Don't call your former lover's work place to find out about them or to try and talk to them.  This will only cause them to hate you more.  If they lose their job because of you, you will never have any hope of getting back together again.

Follow your heart if you want to get your former lover back, but be careful what you do. Not all the ways to get your past lover back that come to you naturally will make them love you again.

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