All relationships call for thinking outside the box of your own individual well-being. You have to extend your thinking to the well-being of your partner, too. You have to regard his or her needs at least as highly as your own. So, any answer to the question "How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?", will include giving up some of what you want some of the time. Healing a damaged relationship takes work and patience. But read a little further to find out how you can make him feel better about being with you again.
First of all, you don't need to spend any more time worrying about the answer to "How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?". Now it's time to shift your attention to how you can repair the damage that was done, and how to prevent it from happening again. This will also remove any bad feelings that may have led to the breakup. That's part of the real answer to how you can get back together with your ex boyfriend. Now for some more of the answer ...
You already know that a breakup always happens for a reason. Something wasn't working. That something was probably one of two things - you were getting too close or you weren't close enough. If you were too close, he was probably feeling smothered. If you were too distant, or maybe too routine about it, then he likely felt in a rut. Neither one is good for a long-lasting relationship. To answer that question, "How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend", you'll have to figure out which one it was.
Whichever one it was, you can also safely say that it was related to mistakes you made, or else things you should have done but didn't. Now, don't feel under attack, because that's not the point here - the point is to get him to come back, and fix whatever made him leave. If you did do anything that contributed to his unhappiness, you'll also have to be the one who undoes it. Just the same as with any other mistake. No blame, just clean it up.
So what if anything could you have done to help cause the breakup? What was it in the relationship that he found too much to take? Was any of it your fault and fixable by you?
Don't worry about the things that were not your fault and can't be fixed - at least by you. There's always a lot more that you can control and do something about, than you may realize at first. Keep in mind that anything that you can change is going to help you get back together. The important thing now is to be ready to actually change whatever you have to so you can win back his heart.
What does that mean for you? It means that now you know how to get back together with your ex boyfriend. But that's still not the whole answer - that's something you'll only find out by putting this advice into action, right now, yourself!
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