"I Just Broke Up, Now What?" 3 Tips On Getting Back With Your Ex

Posted: Sep 03, 2009 |Comments: 0 | Views: 299 |

"I just broke up, now what do I do?" You can't believe it, but the love of your life just told you they want to break up, move on, start again. It's the one situation that nobody wants to be in. It's the one phrase that nobody wants to hear. It's so devastating that we tend to do the irrational. We freak out, can't breath, eat or sleep and forget about memories, they just make the hurt even worse.

The first thing that we usually do is try and figure out how to get them back, especially if we didn't even see it coming and were not the ones who initiated the break up. I just broke up, now what? Should I call her? Should I try to ask for forgiveness? Do I beg him to come back? Should I make a promise to change? What should I do?

What we should do first is probably the last thing you would have thought of. Don't call, don't beg, don't make any promises. Those are not going to be productive to getting them back and will probably backfire. This is what you should do:

First, instead of trying to get them back, let them go. What? Are you kidding me? I'm hurt. My heart is aching. I want to see them again. How can I just let them go? What do you mean? I just broke up. Letting them go is the last thing I want to do. But here's the thing. Calm down, take a deep breath and listen. Agree with the break up. Let them know that you respect their wishes and if they need some time, you will give it to them. By doing this, you will show respect and genuine love for that person. Believe me. Instead of parting in anger, you will be parting in a mutually agreeable way. Are you with me?

Second, if you are still saying, "I just broke up, now what?", listen some more. The technique above needs to be done in a personal matter. Do not text them on a phone, instead, hand write a letter. Yes, I said hand write a letter. Why? If you use text or email, there is a disconnect there. You are not personalizing it with your own signature. A handwritten letter connects you better and will make a much more profound impact on your ex. Do not skip that part.

Last, you need to get on with your life. Do not see what your ex is doing. Do not make plans with mutual friends so you are near each other. Make your life out to be fun, like you do not need that person to make you happy. By making a disconnect, you are letting your ex get a little taste of jealousy. They think that by breaking up, you should be at home crying and pouting about them. Don't do that. Get out and have fun as if the break up is ok and you are fine with it. When people see that they can't have something lots of times they want it back. Are you still with me on this?

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