I want my ex husband back

So you've decided "I want my ex husband back".  That's great!  Alot of people don't really understand why people go back to an ex or re-marry again.  But you know what?  That's ok.  If it's what your heart wants, then you don't need other people to understand.  However, there is a process to it all.  A way of proceeding.  The biggest obstacle you might have to overcome is what's known as "the rut".  We're all familiar with it.  Any relationship that has endured any significant amount of time begins to fall into a certain routine.  Whether it's in the bedroom, or out of the bedroom.  It's called "real life" and more times than not, it can really get in the way.  If there was a divorce or a separation, this could have been one of the underlying reasons.  If it was, then it most certainly must be avoided if there is to be a "second time around".   You must make new memories together.  Go to new places on your dates or outings.  Meet new people.  Maybe join a social group or two with people of common interests.  Anything that you can do to break that old cycle will only help.  This goes hand in hand with another point I wanted to make.  You simply MUST make time for the relationship itself.  It's easy to let your profession, friends, even children get in the way of a couple really enjoying each other, but you simply must make time fore each other.  No relationship can survive otherwise.

Second, keep an open mind.  Whatever the reason for the separation, it's in the past.  Learn to forgive, even if infidelity was involved.  Especially if infidelity was involved.  If you re-visit the source of the friction, it will only cause more friction.  Obviously, you have a right to know certain things.  But make a point to know the things that will move the relationship forward.  Hammering out the same old issues will make the new relationship feel just like the old one, which will eventually result in the exact same outcome.  Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, by any means.  Just be careful.  You are going to have to face those past issues, but there is a way to do it without actually taking a step backwards.  For the sake of love, try to move forward.  If you're serious when you say "I want my ex husband back", try to find it in your heart to forgive, for both of you.