I Want My Girlfriend Back! One Big Trick That Will Get Her Interested Again

"She broke up with me, and I want my girlfriend back!"

It's the most desperate relationship situation there is - the unwanted break up.  When your girlfriend ends things between you, it's going to feel like the end of the world.  You'll do anything and everything to get her back, but the harder you try the faster she seems to slip through your fingers.  As you press and push, she moves further and further away.  And the further she moves, the more desperate you become.  In an effort to get your ex back, you're actually causing her to run in the opposite direction... yet you can't just sit back and do nothing, right?

Wrong.

There's one big trick you can use for getting back ANY girlfriend, no matter what the circumstances of your break up.  But before you use it however, you first need to know exactly why it works.  Until you can put yourself in your exgirlfriend's shoes, and until you can understand things from her point of view?  All of your efforts will be in vain, and getting your ex back will seem completely out of reach.

Women want the same thing men do: to be loved.  When it comes to dating you, your girlfriend has always had a definite need to be desired.  Sometimes you fulfilled that need, and other times you didn't.  But whatever the reasons she had for leaving you, the fact of the matter is still the same: your ex still needs validation in the form of YOU wanting HER back.

Does your ex girlfriend want you to call her?  Write her notes?  Leave cards and flowers on the windshield of her car?  No.  Those things are a big turn off after the break up.  Not only does she already feel uneasy around you (from having to sit down and break up with you), but watching you go through these actions will make your ex see you as desperate.  Needy, desperate guys are very unattractive.  Running around crying I want my girlfriend back to your friends, family, and even worse, her friends, will put some very bad visuals in her head.  In short, a girl who doesn't respect you will never want you as a boyfriend again.

This being said, your girlfriend also doesn't want to see you walk away from the relationship completely unscathed.  She wants to see you miss her.  She wants to see you struggling with the fact that you can't have her anymore.  Your ex wants to know that she's still desirable... and the more you dote on her, the more you call her up?  The more you're reinforcing her decision to let you go.  Knowing that she can get you back with the snap of two fingers makes you wholly unattractive, but not knowing where you are and what you're doing will make you mysterious and desirable.

But why is that?  Why would your girlfriend be more interested in you when you're completely invisible?  It makes no sense, right?

Actually it makes perfect sense.  Ever miss someone really bad?  It's probably because you hadn't seen them in a while.  But the friends and family that you see and talk to every single day?  You don't miss them because you don't get the chance to miss them.  Because they're always in your line of sight, they become almost unseen.

Your ex girlfriend views you in the exact same way.  Stick around and "be there" for her, and she's going to look right past you.  But disappear from her life entirely?  That's when she's going to start wondering where you are.  Stop calling your ex, emailing, texting, and contacting her?  She's going to worry about whether or not you've moved onto greener pastures.  And best of all, not show ANY remorse or conflict when it comes to the break up?  You're going to drive your exgirlfriend absolutely bananas.

She has a need to be needed... a desire to be wanted.  By not feeding these things you're making her question herself, and more importantly, question her decision to break up with you.

Instead of sitting around telling everyone I want my girlfriend back, you need to be proactively doing something about it.  And NOT the things you have been doing - the ones that just don't work.  Instead, you should be focused on making your ex miss and need you again.  From there, reopening the lines of communication is an important part of the reconciliation process, but only when the time is right, and only after you've given her enough time and space to really understand what her life will be like without you in it.  By allowing your ex to be completely and utterly alone, you're giving yourself the best possible chance of dating her again.

There are plenty of great techniques you can use to make your ex call you, want you, and need to see you again.  Everything however, must be done in steps.  Once you've got a step by step plan for winning your girlfriend back all laid out and ready?  You can start knowing exactly what to do and when you should be doing it.  That alone will go miles and miles toward repairing your relationship.