Repair a Lost Love...and Create a Lasting Relationship

The human being is a marvelous creation. We possess cognitive thinking skills, are the only animal in the kingdom capable of speech and an opposable thumb. Yet with all these amazing attributes we rarely are capable of a romantic relationship without some strife involved! And when the strife gets beyond control the magic is gone and the loving duet call it quits. When this happens we call it a “breakup” and it is usually a very painful experience for all involved.

A breakup with your love partner is just plain lousy. They usually result from an immediate emotional reaction and everyone involved is placed in “love limbo” as they attempt to get on with life. Suddenly your nights and weekends become an anchor on your heart as you wonder what your ex is doing that night and who they are doing it with. The great news is that we can put those cognitive skills to work and put these love birds back into their nest. So take a look at a few positive tips and love could be blossoming again.

*Tip #1. Do something now! This is not the time to sit in the dark brooding over a cold beer. Reflect on what this relationship has meant to you and what you want it to mean in the future. This is not the time to cry over spilled milk. There was a catalyst, a trigger in this breakup and you must find and correct it. Use a bit of your time alone to put your head back together: acknowledge your part in the problem, recognize your failures and then get over it. If you continually dwell on that last hateful remark your loved one made to you it will fester then there will never be a cure.

*Tip #2. Apologies are necessary. This does not mean that you DEMAND that your lover crawl back on their knees for forgiveness. Focus on yourself and what you can change, using the results to formulate the method YOUwill use to apologize. Recognize that no matter what you want to think you were not an innocent in this matter. Be sincere in your approach and if this reflects a forgiving and positive nature your girl/guy should be able to recognize this and respond in kind.

*Tip #3. Live the days in a manner that will reflect your desire to bring love back into your life. Trouble is really in your future if you profess true love and then go to the beach to watch the bikini contest (or the bodybuilding for you gals!). Your sincerity MUST must be evident in your words, actions and deeds from this moment on!

Relationships in the human love world are very delicate and must be constantly nurtured. The main reason that you see fifty year marriage anniversaries in the Sunday paper is that the bride and groom WORKED on their marriage from the date of the wedding. This is something to remember when you pull your love back into your life. Learn words like communication, patience and tenderness and then put them into action in your relationship. Repair your love life because your want to, then treat it as a gift and continue to work on it and you also can celebrate a fiftieth wedding anniversary.

Oh year…that opposable thumb? That should be used to turn the pages in those books you download that will supply you with more love saving trechniques!