Should I UnFriend My Exboyfriend To Get Him Back?

Are you still friends with your exboyfriend on Facebook? Can he still see what's going on in your life and you're afraid that if you delete him from your friends list that he will get angry? Do you worry that you should keep him there just in case he wants to get in touch with you or if he wants to check on you?

Look… you should want him to get in touch with you but not through facebook or anything online. If you are too accessible and if he can find out where you are, what you're doing and who you are with then there is no reason for him to get in touch with you or wonder how you are. Especially if you have been posting things like that your heart is broken or that you're a wreck or that you still love him or anything of the like, you need to unfriend him. Ultimately, it is my suggestion that you completely delete such accounts and keep to yourself if you sincerely want to get your ex back.

You see, even by sharing with your friends or family that you are upset or that you have plans of getting your exboyfriend back you leave open the possibility of allowing your ex to find out how you're doing and what you're up to through your friends. It is too easy for your ex to contact a friend or family member and keep tabs on you to futher bloat his already inflated ego after the breakup.

Oh, you don't think that your exboyfriend's ego is bloated from all of this? By falling apart and being upset about the breakup you are indeed making him feel pretty good about himself. Even if he wasn't a stellar boyfriend he will feel that there must be something to him if you are so upset after he broke up with you. Likewise, all the women around him will be wondering what is so special about him that you are upset since the breakup. This will cause them to want to investigate further and possibly even begin to chase after him themselves. You don't want that competition if you are serious about getting your ex boyfriend back, are you?

The temptation to snoop on your ex can also be quite overwhelming if you continue to remain friends with him in a virtual way. You are better than this and you deserve a real relationship, don't you? Snooping and cyber stalking him will only drive you crazy and make you jealous. You will begin to invent scenarios in your mind and grow suspicious of every girl that posts on his wall or suddenly appears as a new friend. None of this will be beneficial to your long term goal of getting your ex back so there is no sense in driving yourself crazy.

Once you do get him back you can recreate those accounts or send him a friend request but until then creating some mystery and making him contact you directly is the name of the game. Distance yourself from your ex and he will be the one to grow suspicious of what you are up to until he can't stand it any more and he is forced to reach out to you. Social networking sites are great once you re-initiate contact with your ex but until then they can be the downfall to your plans to get your ex back. So take a step forward and sever that tie that is standing in your way if you are serious about getting him back.