Stopping Your Ex From Dating Someone Else

Posted: Oct 05, 2010 |Comments: 0 | Views: 179 |

So your ex started dating again, or might be thinking about it.  This can be a crushing blow, especially if it happens right after your breakup.  The rejection you go through after being dumped is nothing compared to the thought of your boyfriend or girlfriend starting a relationship with someone else.

Whether you were still reeling from the end of your relationship or you've been actively trying to get your ex back, the news of your ex's new romance can hit you like a ton of bricks.  To maintain your sanity the first thing you need to do is take a deep breath, relax, and try to approach things with a clear and level head.

Truthfully, it's very difficult to stop your ex from dating someone else, especially if the wheels have already been set in motion.  Your boyfriend or girlfriend can get quickly enmeshed in the honeymoon phase of their new relationship, where everything is exciting and fun.  As hard as it is to accept, you need to realize that you are the furthest thing from your ex's mind... right now, anyway.  That may change later on, and this is when you can begin working toward making your ex want you again.

Right now though, you need to maintain your ex's respect.  Instead of focusing on things you can't control (i.e. whether or not your ex was seeing this person during the tail end of your relationship), you have to focus only on the things you can.  You can't keep your ex from doing what he or she wants, and the only thing you have total control over are your own actions.  Therefore, those actions must be geared toward creating an atmosphere where your ex boyfriend or girlfriend will eventually (and quickly) see you as desirable again.


The Rebound Relationship - Why It Fails

First things first: your ex's feelings for you are all still intact.  Those emotions didn't just conveniently disappear when your ex met someone else; he or she went out of their way to ignore or bury their true feelings for you.  Because of this, your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend never had the opportunity to fully process the breakup, and this can be a very helpful thing.

This means those feelings are still there, despite the fact that your ex may be ignoring them.  As time goes on and the honeymoon of your ex's new romance wears off, those feelings will begin rising once again to the surface.  They'll start comparing their current relationship to their previous one, and this is where you have the advantage.  Why?  Many reasons:

* You and your ex have a longer and more detailed history than he or she does with their current lover.
* After the first few fights, your ex will begin comparing the bad traits of their current lover with your good ones.
* Over time, your ex will remember the good times you had together, and bad memories tend to fade.

Stay cool, and you can position yourself to look like a much better option than your ex's new boyfriend or girlfriend.  As the rebound relationship burns itself out, your ex will begin questioning whether or not they made a mistake by losing you.  They'll look to see where you are and what you're doing, and this is where you need to be in exactly the right place.

Getting Your Ex Back From Someone Else - Speeding Things Up

While there's no magical formula that will make your ex instantly dump the person they're seeing and come running back to you, there are definite methods and techniques that can help the process.  The more you can align yourself with your ex's old interests, the sooner you can get them to want you back again.  This includes techniques to make your ex remember how things used to be between you, back when the two of you were in the honeymoon stage of your own relationship.

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