Surviving a Break Up - And Moving On!

Surviving a break up is so hard, specially when you have been together for over a year. Shelly's boyfriend Tom told her he just wanted to see other people. She never even saw it coming, she thought everything was great. Now she doesn't know how she is going to get by without Tom.

Shelly wasn't going to give up on Tom. She wanted him back. She called him several times a day, sent him emails, showed up at his apartment, anything she could think of to come in contact with him. What she didn't realize at the time, was this type of action was pushing Tom further away, it was never going to bring him back. And it didn't.

After a while, Shelly realized it was really over and Tom was not going to come back to her. She had some of Tom's things at her place and she just couldn't stand looking at them anymore. She also knew that Tom had some of her things and she wanted them back. She called Tom and set up a time to meet and exchange their belongings.

Shelly tried to give Tom back the diamond earrings he gave her, but Tom wanted her to keep them, and hopefully remember the good times they had together. Shelly knew she couldn't bear to look at those earrings and remember the good times, it hurt too much right now. She put them away, and hoped some day she would be able to wear them again without being reminded of the sadness she felt now.

Shelly knew she had to do something drastic if she had any chance at all of surviving a break up. So, she told Tom that it would be better if they stopped all communication for at least a month. This would give them both the needed time and space to move on with their lives without each other.

This isn't what Tom had in mind at all, he wanted them to still be friends, but Shelly held her ground. She knew she had to do it this way if she were going to move on. So that is what Shelly and Tom did for a month and if they saw each other, they were polite but did not talk about the relationship.

Finally, Shelly was able to start seeing some of her old friends that she had put on the back burner when she and Tom were dating. She also started doing some of the other things she use to love doing, running and reading. Doing the things she really enjoyed doing were very instrumental in surviving a break up for Shelly. She realized that by doing some of the things she really enjoyed allowed her to move on from her old relationship.

She decided to run a 5K with some of her new friends and happened to meet a guy that she really clicked with. Shelly thought it was too soon to for a new relationship, but decided, what the heck, life is too short. So they went out him and had a great time. She knew this was another way to surviving a break up.

Surviving a break up, is this where you are at right now?

I've been there too, and it is hard. You hurt all over and can't focus on anything else, you just want to curl up on your couch and never go out again.

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