The Leverage You Need To Get Your Girlfriend Back

Are you looking for a little leverage to help you to get your girlfriend back? Do you wish that you had the upper hand and that you could get your ex to change her mind about your breakup? The truth is that your eventual success in getting your girlfriend back depends upon you doing the right things and saying the right things to change how your ex thinks about you and views you. Unfortunately, if you are like most guys you are doing all the wrong things to get your girlfriend back. You are probably killing your chances of getting your ex back without even knowing it.

Have you been being really nice to her or buying her gifts? Have you suddenly become very communicative with your ex and wanting to talk about your relationship all the time? Are you blowing her phone up with daily phone calls or text messages? Have you cried or begged or pleaded for your girlfriend to change her mind and take you back? Have you told her that you missed or that you loved her still or that you will wait for as long as is necessary to get her back? While these things are pretty normal you are killing any bit of attraction that your ex has for you and at the same time you're destroying your chances of ever getting her back.

Stop Feeding Her Ego Man! - Every time you push your ex by contacting her and doing all the things that most guys try at first to get their ex back you are making yourself look weak and needy. At the same time you are feeding her ego and making her feel pretty awesome about herself. In addition, everybody around her will be seeing how actively you are pursuing her, including every guy she knows. They will be looking at her with a new appreciation and suddenly be very attracted to her. They will wonder what is so special about her that you are going crazy since the breakup and they will want to get close to her. You see, you may actually be pushing her into the arms of another guy with your attempts to get her back so knock it off.

You might think that you need to tell her that you're not going anywhere or that you love her but this is just a lie that your brain is telling you to try to get you to contact her. It is just your insecurity that you will never get her back that is making you desperately promise to change and want to tell her all the time that you love her and will wait for her to change her mind. She won't forget about you and you can count on her to be thinking about you whether you are talking to her or not. It is up to you whether she thinks of you as pathetic and needy or if she begins to have feelings for you again.

Let Her Simmer Like A Stew - The best way to get her to start thinking of you in any sort of a positive way is to just back off and create some distance between the two of you so time can do it's healing thing. Just put her on the back burner for a little bit and let her simmer like a pot roast. Think of it this way... the longer you let her simmer the more tender her heart will become and the more receptive she is going to be to you the next time she sees you. Allowing some time to pass can make her begin to forget about the bad stuff from the past and also give you some time to come up with a plan to get her back.

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder and by letting some time to pass you might be surprised by the reception that you get the next time you do see your ex girlfriend. She will look more beautiful to you and you will look more handsome to her. So do what you need to do to keep from contacting her, her friends or her family. Any kind of contact will push her further away and only prolong the amount of time it is going to take to get her back. But it is absolutely possible for you to get your girlfriend back if you have a solid plan and know what to say and do to get her to change her mind about your breakup.