Top 3 Reasons Why Your Ex Girlfriend Is Ignoring You

She's cold... she's clinical... she won't stay on the phone more than thirty seconds.  Every attempt at contact you make is ignored or treated with disdain, and the girl you once loved now feels more like an complete stranger to you.

Sound familiar?

Well don't despair just yet, because this post-breakup scenario is a lot more common than you think.  Even in the cases where couples have gotten back together, an ex girlfriend's instincts right now are to push you far, far away.

While every breakup happens under different circumstances, some aspects are always the same.  If your ex girlfriend is completely ignoring you right now, chances are good you've committed one of the following three very common blunders:

You're Chasing After Your Ex Girlfriend

You'll read a lot of breakup advice telling you to "fight" for your relationship... but not here, and not now.  Fighting to keep your girlfriend or get her to change her mind about breaking up with you is actually one of the worst things you can do.  Ironically, it's also the biggest mistake most guys make.

Does your ex girlfriend want to be chased?  The answer to that is yes and no.  Yes, your ex likes to see you chasing after her.  It shows that you cared about the relationship and she wasn't just being strung along the whole time that she dated you.  At the same time however, your ex girlfriend doesn't want to be bothered by you.  She'll shun your phone calls, won't answer your text-messages, and will delete your emails - at first, anyway.

By chasing after your exgirlfriend you're feeding her ego, but you're also making her feel very weird and strange around you.  The sooner you stop doing this, the better off you'll be.

You're Trying To Change Your Ex Girlfriend's Mind

Few things are worse than telling your girlfriend that she's wrong.  Here, in the last moments of your relationship, you're once more disagreeing with your girlfriend on one final thing: her decision to break up with you.

No girl wants be talked out of a break up.  At least not right away.  The more you fight her on this, the more logic you try to introduce?  The more vehemently your girlfriend will fight back, and the more she'll start thinking her decision is a good one... and this is the LAST thing you want.

Accept the fact that your relationship is over, and that there's nothing you can do or say to change that right now.  The operative words in that sentence are right now, because later on down the line there will be LOTS you can do to win your girlfriend back.  Currently however, you need to maintain her respect through silence.

You're Attempting To Remain In Your Ex Girlfriend's Life

Is the relationship over but you want to stay friends?  Really bad move.  Being friends after the break up is going to kill your chances of getting back together more than anything else, as well as cause your ex girlfriend to ignore you even more.

You'll never date your ex again unless she wants you back in her life.  Your girlfriend needs to miss and think about you before she'll pick up that phone and dial your number.  So how in the world can she miss you if you're still around?  How can your ex feel lonely when you're still within arms' reach?

The sooner you remove yourself completely from your exgirlfriend's life, the faster she'll want you back.  By disappearing entirely and refusing to accept some lame role of friendship, you're creating a void in your ex's life where your relationship used to be.  This void can't be filled by contact with you, because you've dropped off the map.  This is why eliminating all communication with your ex works better than anything else you can do early on.

So What Can You Do To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back?

When it comes to getting back together and reversing a break up, you need to be proactive about everything you do.  You can't just sit back and expect your ex to come to you, nor can you desperately chase after her.  But somewhere in between?  There's a middle ground - a path that leads right back into your ex girlfriend's heart and mind.

Walking that path requires a step by step plan.  By knowing what to do and when to do it, you can work yourself back into your ex girlfriend's life in some very positive ways.  There are also methods and techniques that will help recreate the magic of your original relationship, making your ex want you all over again.  And if your girlfriend is currently ignoring you?  The sooner you get started the better off you'll be.