Top 5 Reasons For Breaking Up

Posted: Jan 08, 2010 | Views: 164 |

Almost everyone has, at one time or another, gone through a break up.

It's a stressful and painful time as you try and mend your broken heart.

If you've recently gone through a break up, then here are what I consider the top 5 reasons for breaking up.

The top 5 reasons for breaking up include…

1. Cheating or Infidelity

Cheating or infidelity is a major cause of breaking up.

It's the ultimate breaking of the bond of trust between two people who are in love.

If your partner is happy with the relationship and feels loved, appreciated, and fulfilled in the relationship, then there should be no reason to stray and have an affair.

Some people believe that simply communicating with other men or women on the internet - usually for sexual titillation or for the sexual thrill and excitement - is a form of infidelity even if there is no physical contact or meeting.

2. Incompatibility

Sometimes two people are physically attracted to each other right from the start.

Initially it may be a sexual attraction. However, the relationship is short lived since they have no shared interests.

They might even enjoy each other's company but ultimately they find as they get to know each other that they have nothing in common.


You can also have many things in common with somebody - the same goals, values, and dreams - but ultimately there's no spark that makes a lasting relationship or the relationship becomes boring and fizzles out.

3. Smothering Your Partner With Affection

It's quite common in a new relationship to smother the person you've fallen in love with.

In fact, you become too loving and can't do enough to show your love for the new person in your life.

Your partner begins to feel overwhelmed and inadequate because they can't return your love in the same way or to the same degree.

You may even be clingy or needy - wanting to be with your new partner all the time - which can lead to your partner saying "I need my space" and breaking up with you.

4. Controlling Your Partner

Your partner wants you to act in a certain way. So you can't be yourself in your own unique way.

Worse still, your partner controls your time and activities to the point where you don't feel like you have any freedom to express yourself and do the things you like.

While it's also a sign of a new relationship, a controlling partner might want to be with you all the time to know what you're doing and who you're seeing.

In the extreme, a controlling partner will phone you to check up on you and direct how you spend your time during the day.

Sometimes controlling is about being jealous or insecure. Your partner isn't mature enough - or has been hurt in the past and is unable - to trust you.

Controlling can also lead to an abusive relationship in which case a break up is the best thing for you mentally and physically.

5. Arguing

Every relationship has its conflicts and disagreements.

But if one partner has a bad temper it not only can lead to highly stressful situations, but also to abuse.

One way to get over an argument is to forgive quickly and not harbor resentment towards your partner.

The key to a strong and lasting relationship - even with arguments - is to honor and love your partner, treating them with kindness, courtesy, patience, and thoughtfulness and working through the tough times together.

Use these reasons for breaking up to discover what went wrong in your previous relationship and to make positive changes in your life - especially if you want to get your ex back or to have more success in your next relationship.

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