Want to Get Him Back - But Wait!

If you have been looking for an effective plan to get him back you have probably heard of the no contact rule. While it may seen counter-intuitive to break off contact with your ex and wait to try to get him back there is a method to this madness. There are reasons why you should wait before diving in head first to try to get your man back.

The biggest reason why you should wait and give yourself a little time before doing anything to try to get him back is due to all the emotions that are flying around all over the place. You are pushing to get back together, fearing that he is going to find someone else and just having a heart felt desire to get back to the security that you once felt with him. You want that love that you once felt back and you would do just about anything to prove to him that you can work through any problems that you two might have.

Your ex, on the other hand, in his emotionally charged state, has the opposite emotions and in his mind he is dead set against getting back together. He is being stubborn and he feels that he has made his mind up and he's never going to change it. And the more pushing you do it seems that he becomes more determined to push you away. It seems like he has completely forgotten who you are and what the two of you shared together and at time he might even seem like a different person.

By putting a little space between the two of you there will be time for the dust to settle and for the reality of what life is going to be like without you to begin to sink in. Sure, for the first few days he might be glad that he hasn't heard from you or seen you but he will begin to soften when the newness of bachelorhood sinks in. When he hears a song on the radio that reminds him of you or when he sits down to watch his favorite television show he will be reminded of you. Soon all around him will be daily reminders of you and he will have moments when he begins to think back with fondness of times that you spent together.

Meanwhile, you are on the other side of town working on pulling yourself back together in preparation to see him again and actually get him back. The next time he sees you he will be shocked by how together you are, which will be a huge blow to his ego. How dare you look so good after he broke up with you! He fully expects you to fall apart and be pining away for him just sitting by the phone waiting on his call. But you have the confidence and self assurance that you can get him back. So there is no need for you to be upset. There's no need for you to look like hell. There's no need for you to beg and plead with him to come back to you. Because it is going to happen. He fell in love with you once. Why wouldn't he fall in love with you again?

So, how long do you keep up this no contact rule? How long do you let him sit and ponder what life is going to be like without you? When do you know that you're ready to get him back? This varies from relationship to relationship and much depends upon how much damage you did just after the breakup by contacting him in the first place. Most experts say a month is about the right amount of time before re-initiating contact with your ex but many variables come into play and I never give a hard and fast number of days before the time is right to put your plan into action. The most important part is that you have yourself together and you know what to say and what to do to get him back.

Rest assured though.. there are many people that have been in your exact same position and many of these women have gone on not just to get their ex back but to win him back forever. Many say that their relationship changed for the better after the breakup and once they understood how their man worked emotionally they were more in control of their relationship than they were before the breakup. So you see, your breakup might just be a blessing in disguise!