Yes You Can Win Lost Love Back!

You may be in a state of despair or even depression at the moment, because you recently broke up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, or spouse. Things may look bad, right about now. But the good news is, you can actually get your ex back. You just need to go about it properly. If your goal is to win lost love back, then keep reading. 

First, realize that there are reasons why he or she broke up with you. Think about them for a while. Were you unfaithful? Was your ex just bored, or were you complacent with each other, taking each other for granted? Perhaps you were fighting constantly? Each of these problems can be addressed and fixed.  

Some are bigger than others, of course. If you cheated, it may be a long, slow process to rebuild trust between you. To win lost love back, you will have to prove over a period of time, that you can be trusted, that you are not going to cheat again. 

If this is the issue, think to yourself, why did I cheat on my partner? Was it because I did not feel 100% committed to the relationship? Maybe subconsciously, I did not really want it to continue. Maybe I did not really care, one way or another. Before trying to work this out with your ex, you must work it out with yourself. 

Take some time to reflect, and examine your feelings. If you come to the conclusion that you do want to get your ex back, and that you will be loyal to him/her, then you are ready to move forward. Apologize for straying, and promise sincerely that it will not happen again. But do not expect this to instantly accomplish your task to win lost love back. 

It will take time to heal the deep hurt, and to reestablish trust. So do not be impatient, or think that this can be fixed in a day or two. If you were married, then your goal is to win spouse back. You no doubt face the same problems and difficulties, multiplied many times over if there are children to consider.  

Still, you must proceed carefully and thoughtfully. Be humble and contrite. Do not try to win arguments or gain ground with your ex. You want to win him/her back, not merely to gain points.  

A good place to start is to be your ex's best friend. Remember how things were when your love was new? Try and recapture that magical, exciting time when you stared deeply into each other's eyes, and felt you were looking into their soul. Face it, you were more attentive to her, more attuned to her moods and feelings back then. How to recapture that? Start by watching her closely. Listen carefully to what she says, and especially how she says it.  

Here is another suggestion. You have convinced her to go out for coffee, just to talk. Get some takeout coffee, rent a rowboat and paddle out onto a small lake. Park the boat in the middle. Now enjoy the scenery, the coffee and each other. Or hike to the top of a hill and have a picnic. Go to an amusement park, go on a few rides, then sit down and talk. 

The point is to do something different, to reinvigorate your relationship and fight boredom. This shows your ex that you are using your imagination, and making an effort to woo her anew. You are unlikely to succeed to get your spouse back if you continue the same tired old habits. 

If the problem was constant fighting and bickering, this too can be repaired with two approaches.   

First, you must compromise and find fairly permanent, workable solutions to each issue, so that you stop arguing about it. (Arguments are corrosive; they gradually eat away and destroy the bond between you.) For example, you may like to go drink beer with your buddies a few times a week. But the wife hates and resents it, and wants you to stay with her.  

So consider cutting back, and go only once a week. Or suggest that she go out with her girl friends while you are out with the boys. Bring some flexibility and imagination to the table, and any problem can be beaten down to size. 

Second, and perhaps more important, the two of you have to find a new way to discuss and resolve your problems, before they become pitched battles that leave deep scars. Make rules that no one is allowed to raise his voice, or bring up what happened in the past, or use personal insults.  

Try this: When you have a meaty, serious matter to discuss, go to your favorite restaurant and work it out over dinner. Being in public will discourage both of you from using bad language, throwing things, or other inappropriate behavior. 

Find little tricks like these to help prop up your relationship. They are fun, and bring a bit of spice to your lives. Think up others yourself. As an added benefit, it will show your partner that you are constantly working on the relationship, trying to make it better. Keep your hopes and dreams in front of you, and you will surely succeed in your goal to win lost love back.