Can you get your man to man up? How to know when you are dating Peter Pan
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We laugh at shows like Big Bang Theory where lovable geeks spend weekend nights content to play video games online rather than engage socially with the opposite sex. Or movies like Knocked Up, where twenty-something males get high and talk about creating the next great skin website while their female contemporaries (Katherine Heigl's character) work at their careers. While these characters may seem exaggerated, there's a growing epidemic with males in their twenties and thirties who simply do not want to grow up and engage in adult activities like dating and relationships.
"There does seem to be a real disconnect between many males in that age bracket who are content to hang out with buddies or get involved with the opposite sex but only to take care of their primal needs," said Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove, one of the world's largest online dating and matchmaking services. "Unfortunately, many women do get involved with these modern day Peter Pans and invest a lot of time and energy in a relationship that's really not going anywhere."
So how do you know if you're dating a Peter Pan? Males stuck in the Peter Pan syndrome show a number of traits:
- Mama's boy – Peter Pans typically look for partners to do everything for them—cook, clean, etc.
- Job insecurity – Peter Pans typically don't hold steady jobs for very long and are all-too-ready to jump the steady paycheck for the next great moneymaking idea.
- Fidelity – Not a high priority item for a number of Peter Pans. Why? Peter Pans believe the grass is always greener, even if you've been dating somebody for a while.
- No Prince Charming – while Prince Charming came to Cinderella's rescue, that's not the case with Peter Pan. Quite the opposite. A Peter Pan never takes responsibility for his own mistakes and often turns to the mother figure to pick up the pieces.
- My way or the highway – Peter Pans must have things their way. While a 20-something might not throw a fit or sit in a corner holding his breath, the tantrum could manifest itself in other ways, mental and physical.
- Father figure? – Marrying a Peter Pan and having children with him can be a recipe for disaster. Since Peter Pans is himself like a child, the children will not respect him, in spite of his efforts to be their playmate.
- Truth vs. fiction – Dating a child-like man creates a quandary as to where truth ends and fiction begins.
So, what do modern-day Wendys do if they start to see the Peter Pan in their man?
"Unfortunately, many women think they can help their child-like men grow up. Truth be told, only Peter Pan can change Peter Pan," said Falzone. "That's why it's extremely important to know what you want out of a relationship before you are actually in one and communicate that with who you are dating. If that's not important to them, you really need to decide if it's worth the investment."
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