Working with Aspects of Emotions with EFT

As we work with EFT, we will often observe changes in emotions, aspects and even in the events, situations and the issues themselves. In such cases, we might find it beneficial to flow with those changes addressing each obstacle as it appears. We must however always have in mind the unresolved emotions, aspects and issues and return to check them and resolve them.

A. Working Directly With the Emotion

Note: We use two phrases when doing the set up.

A. We rub on the sore spot on one side (or tap the side of the hand) repeating phrase "A" three times. B. Then we repeat phrase "B" three times while rubbing the on the sore spot on the other side (or tapping on the side of the other hand). C. Then we repeat the "C" reminder phrase while tapping on the 12 points.

A. Even though I feel (the emotion) _____________ when / because ___________ (stimulus), I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) because / when ____________.

B. Possible Aspects We Need to Look At

If after completing three rounds we do not get satisfactory results, we might want to check the following possible aspects.

I. Emotions which we have about the fact that we have this emotion (which we are now working on)

A. Even though I feel some _______(perhaps - guilt, shame, self-rejection, self-doubt, anger) because I have this (emotion we are working on) _____________ when / because ___________, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ________. (The one that we have because of the fact that we have the original emotion)

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) _________. (The one that we have because of the fact that we have the original emotion)

II. Emotions which might be creating the original emotion. (For example anger and hate are usually a secondary emotions which are caused by primary emotions such as fear, hurt, injustice, guilt etc. In such a case the primary emotions might need to be removed in order to get free from the secondary - i.e. anger)

A. Even though I feel some _______(perhaps - fear, guilt, shame, self-rejection, self-doubt, injustice) because / when ___________, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The Emotion) _________.

III. Resistance which we might have about getting free from this emotion. (Psychological Reversal)

We need to work on each possible resistance separately.

Consider some of the possible beliefs, which might create resistance:

Beliefs and factors which may cause us not to want to let go of a particular emotion.

1. I have felt this way a long time and do not know what it will be like to be without this emotion. It will be like losing an important part of myself or my life. (We have become attached or addicted to feeling this way.)

2. I believe that I need this emotion in order to protect myself from others. (Possibly anger, depression, injustice, pain)

3. I will lose my power or control over others. (Perhaps anger, depression, dissatisfaction.)

4. I will lose others' attention if I do not have this emotion.

5. I will lose my self-worth if I do not feel this way. (Especially feeling the victim or angry from which we seek to get our feelings of goodness, rightness - self-worth)

6. I will allow others to be free from feeling guilty or responsible about me. I will lose control over them.

7. I will need to take responsibility for my life.

8. I will need to be happy - something which scares me.

9. I will have to recognize my self-worth - which also scares me.

In such cases of inner obstacles, we can use the following phrases:

A. Even though I fear letting go of this emotion because _____ (resistance) ________________, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

Note: If we sense we have some resistance but do not know what it is then we can just say

A. Even though I seem to have some resistance towards letting go of this emotion, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (fear or resistance) ________.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion or resistance) _________.

IV. Physical problems associated with emotions involved.

A. Even though I have this (physical phenomenon) ____________ in my (part of body) ___________, I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (physical phenomenon) ______ in my (part of body)_____.

C. Reminder Phrase = (physical phenomenon) in my (part of body)

V. Childhood experiences similar to this event which make us more susceptible.

A. Even though I feel (emotion) ____________ concerning what (name of person) _____ did ________(in Childhood), I deeply and profoundly love myself.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this (emotion) ______.

C. Reminder Phrase = (The emotion) about (other person's name and what he/she did)