Getting Your Partner to Like Boating

Posted: Dec 15, 2010 |Comments: 0 |

Mary and I often encounter couples where one is an experienced cruiser and the other is a newbie. How to balance the scale and get the newbie at ease? Will living and cruising aboard ever work when one of the parties is inexperienced or a tad unsure how or if to proceed? The first step is to introduce boating gradually. Charter a vessel together so you understand whether it is something that might work before you make the plunge and get a new or used trawler or motor yacht together. Go out on weekend cruises with acquaintances who own boats. Is your partner secure? The old saying is that you either love it or hate it. Once you have made the choice to proceed with purchasing a vessel, be sure your partner is involved in the buying process. Each of you must be keen on everything about the motor yacht or trawler you get. Look at boats by going online and build a listing of what you like. Compare notes to make sure you and your mate like similar things basically. If not, you will be selling it again in a few months. We have witnessed this often. The engines and all systems will appeal to the man; the interior arrangement and design will talk to the woman. The man can love the engines and all the impressive electronic equipment but if the bath or galley is not perfect for the lady, you will not be obtaining that specific trawler. If mama ain't happy, no one's happy. Get a yacht broker that will be active as your buyer's broker. A skilled broker will direct you through the purchasing course of action and aid you in learning about your trawler after the purchase. Now you've purchased your dream boat and have outfitted her with everything you require to cruise full time. It's time to get her away from the dock. But before starting the engines, formulate a strategy. Devise how you will move from the pier and how you will drop the anchor. How will you get back to the harbor? Talk about this arrangement with each other so everyone is aware his or her responsibility. This is where communication plays a vital role. Each participant must comprehend their job in this procedure. Once you leave the dock, repeat maneuvering in the open water. Practice is the means to gaining self-confidence…practice your docking procedures as well. When your inexperienced partner feels confident, you've won the game. After a few exercises, evaluate what was done accurately and what needs additional practice. This is the key to having fun. And don't be afraid of making mistakes. We have all been there. One mistake NOT to make is with regard to communication. Yelling will prove nothing. It will stress your mate to the point where he or she will be prone to make errors or it will make them so angry they will throw up their hands and give up. Yelling can be a sign of your own stress/anxiety which could be interpreted by your mate that you don't have a clue, thus stressing them out. Try to chat calmly and in a natural tone. If you do end up yelling at your mate, you'll want to make an apology later; otherwise you might be sleeping on the fly bridge that night. Relentless instruction can lead to problems too. If you are attempting to coach your mate how to operate the vessel, looking over his/her shoulder and coaching each minute can lead to concern. The partner will start focusing on your disapproval rather than how they are running the yacht. As in all walks of life, communication is the answer. Oh, and when your novice mate does something right, give them an ata-boy; works everytime. If you are successful in getting your partner to experience a pleasurable time on the water, you can plan on many new trips trying to duplicate that memory, I promise it.

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