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10 Top Tips For Becoming A Master Pick-Up Artist
Author: Jon White  | Posted: 12-07-2006 | Comments: 0 | Views: 264 | Rating: (100)  (?) 
We all know at least one guy who can seemingly walk into a crowded bar or club and attract the attention of the most beautiful girl in the place. But whilst some people have the natural confidence to carry this off, most of us are just too shy or insecure to even take the first step. But it's not as difficult as you think - some people might be born to it whilst the rest of can develop the necessary interpersonal skills needed to be a successful pickup artist. Just follow these few simple rules and you days of lurking in the shadows will be a thing of the past...
Smile. It may be a cliche but if you smile, the whole world smiles with you. If you look happy and confident when you stroll up to a lovely lady, you're already at first base without even trying. So leave your serious face at home!
Add value to yourself. Get some good clothes, some nice after-shave and a decent haircut. And if you think you do with a little toning, then why not join your local gym? If you know you look good, your confidence factor will increase significantly.
Think of a killer opening line. Before you actually approach your target, you need to work out in advance what you're going to say as an opening gambit. The best approach is 'fun and funny'; humour is a real ice-breaker so if you make her laugh, it'll create a terrific first impression.
Never approach solo women. A woman sitting on her own is almost certianly waiting for a friend, or even worse, her boyfriend. If you've spotted a woman that you like the look of sitting by herself, wait and see who arrives before jumping in and introducing herself.
Approach women in a group. Pay attention to all your target's friends, then ignore the woman you want. This will throw a little confusion into the mix and your real target will want to talk to you all the more.
Give your target a couple of negatives. Don't gush all over her and over egg the compliments pudding. Throw in a few backhanded compliments or playful insults to lower her self-esteem, which you can later build back up: "Your nails look nice - are they real?"
Give a false time constraint. However much you want to stay and talk, you should say you can only stay a few minutes. This implies you won't hang around long enough to bother her but if you're getting on well, she'll soon forget that. Also, she'll be flattered that you stayed and talked to her when you actually had something else to do.
Don't lean in. Body language is all important in this kind of scenario. Lean back as if poised to leave, don't crowd her or lean over her when you're chatting.
Have a male friend with you. It's always best to have your 'wing man' to distract your target's friends and remember, if you walk into a bar or club on your own, you'll look like you're obviously 'on the hunt' which can be a real turn-off.
Don't just talk about yourself. If you spend the evening talking about yourself, you'll convey the impression of being both egotistical and disinterested and she'll rapidly lose interest in continuing the conversation. If in doubt, just keep it simple - ask her questions, let her talk about herself and keep up the encouragement by looking and sounding as if she's the most interesting girl in the world.
So there you have it; it's not all about looking like Brad Pitt or having enormous self-esteem. It's about playing the game...and playing to win!
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Need a relationship counselors help on this one
By: YoungEntrepreneur | 02-10-2008
I was with my girlfriend for 3 & 1/2 yrs and we broke up a month ago. I sent her flowers twice since then and she just told me to stop sending flowers because it was making everything harder for her. She lives in a house with 4 other girls that are all single and they are all in college, and I think she is just trying to be part of the group and trying to experience life being single again. I started dating her when she was a senior in high school, and I was already a junior in college, she lied about her age when I first met her and when we started dating, she finally told me the truth. I was already in love with her at this point and disregarded the advice from my friends and continued the relationship. She is now a junior in college, she went to the same one I did so that we could be together, and when we broke up, she told me she needed her space and that she didn?t know who she was as an individual and needed to know what life was without me, and she also said there were things that she wanted to do at college that she couldn't do while being in a relationship. Pretty harsh since only a month before the break up, we were talking about moving in together the next year. But at the same time we were arguing a lot and actually spent a few days apart not as a couple, especially on her birthday. She told me on her birthday that she cried half way into the night because I wasn?t there, and we got back together for another month. During this month we were growing farther apart, and I felt it more on her end by listening to the constant complaints she had about me because I never complained about her. She was upset that I was not going right into the work force after college and she did not have faith in my plans for starting an online business. We used to have this little anniversary every month to just celebrate the day of the month we got together, but as time went on, we stopped celebrating our anniversaries like we used to. I used to write her alot of poems, almost one every month, but as our relationship went on, the poems slowed to a halt. At this time, I had already graduated school, was living back at home with my parents, and was in the middle of getting a start-up business going. I spent a lot of time on the business and my ex was still living at home because it was summer and she lives close to the school. As the summer was coming to an end, she was also getting ready to move into this house with her friends and I went on a small vacation with my friends, so we weren't spending as much time together. During the vacation she mentioned not being happy and sounded like she wanted to break up, and I was not giving her the attention she deserved while I was away on this trip which made the situation even worse. I was spending tons of time out on the lake and couldn?t bring my phone with me and I simply didn?t care thinking that there is no way she would ever break up with me because of all the things we have said and done for each other. So at the end of the summer when all her friends moved into their new house for the school year, she was definitely trying to break up. I took her out to dinner and I knew then that things weren't right, she had a look on her face like she knew that she was going to break up with me later that night, and she did, but she just said she needed her space and some time, she even mentioned a few months, and then told me she wasn't looking to "hook up" with other guys. The next day, she told me about not wanting to be in a relationship anymore. I tried calling her immediately but she would not pick up her phone and basically only wanted to text me the rest of what she had to say which was how she couldn?t give me what I was looking for. She said she couldn't promise me that she wouldn't try to "hook up" with other guys because she wouldn't know how else she would ever get over me. So I basically broke down at this point and begged for her back in so many ways, which I read later is one of the worst things you can do, I even sent flowers when she replied with one sentence answers of how they are pretty but to not send them. I even wrote her a poem which she didn't respond to at all.. So after sending her flowers the second time and getting a response to not send them anymore, I just replied to her via email, since she wont talk to me on the phone, and said this: this is all very hard for me... its obvious that you don't want me to be a part of your life anymore, I respect you and I'll respect your decision... and then I said goodbye once and for all. She didn't respond to me since then until 5 days ago when she saw me adding some new attractive friends to my facebook, she replied to me in a personal message on facebook saying: ?I like your new wh_re friend... I?m glad to see you are not sad anymore.? I think that was a jealous and spiteful thing to say. I have been reading some books on this topic and it said if you are trying to get your ex back, you have to always enforce positive thoughts to your ex and never negative ones. They also said that using jealousy as a tactic to get back your ex is not suggested because it only pushes them to believe that you are moving on and so should they or that maybe they cannot meet the new standards of your new friends. That is just the background of my story and I have only one question. It's been 5 days since I received the message on facebook from my ex. Some people I have asked, especially women tell me not to reply to that message at all, because she is playing games, and that she can think that she really is losing me now and that she will finally realize what she is losing once she thinks I'm truly gone. My guy friends, some of which have been in this very situation, tell me to reply to the message as soon as possible and lay down some boundaries. They want me to tell her this: Hey ... 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