Communication between the sexes seems like a myth sometimes. It can seem impossible to find out how to make your partner happy if you don't know what she wants. Of course, every woman is an individual with unique needs, but here are five (in no particular order) that they all want:
1. Romance-
The problem here is that a lot of guys tend to associate romance with trashy novels or cutesy, once-a-year valentines. To be effective, it should be somewhat of a lifestyle. True romance is the little things a couple does for each other all the time, and it doesn't have to be flowers and candy. It can be as simple as warming up her car on a cold day, or making the morning coffee so she can wake up to a fresh pot. It's the actions you take to demonstrate your love for her, not to be confused with sex.
2. Affection-
Affection is simply the physical manifestation of romance. It's cuddling on the couch while watching a movie, or a hug, or a kiss that is not designed to lead straight to the bedroom. Again, not to be confused with sex.
3. Security-
Different women satisfy their need for security in different ways, but they all want it. It's hardwired into their brains. The homemaker types are nesters. They find security in their homes and family. The independent, self-sufficient woman may find it in a career. As a man, you role in her quest is to be supportive and work together with her to make it happen. Be dependable.
4. Laughter-
Every woman likes a man who can make her laugh. However, this is not the stand-up routine you entertain your buddies with at the bar. It's a little bit about recreating that giddy, happy time when you were still trying to impress her with your wit, and even more about being about to laugh each other through the trials of life.
5. Sex-
Now, the one you've been waiting for. Contrary to what you might think, women want sex just as much as guys do. When she doesn't want to sleep with you, it's not a power play, it's because your behavior at that point has made you unattractive to her. Sleepily and unceremoniously rolling on top of her in the middle of the night is probably not going to turn her on. The bottom line is if you respect her, and take care of these first four things, she'll give you all of number five you can handle.
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Will I ever meet Mr Right?
By: J | 13-07-2008
I am a 32 year old single woman who is attractive,confident,educated,friendly and open. I was in a very bad relationship about 6 years ago. It only lasted a year but left me a bit scarred so that it took a while for me to feel ready to meet anyone. However, I am now willing and able and generally lead a good lifei in most areas. I have good friends, an active social life etc.Problem is, although I do date and have met 3 people whom I have dated for over a couple of months in the last 2 years, I live in a small place where new faces are not that easy to come by,especially single and decent ones.I really put myself out there and am always up for a new date. I have stopped getting drunk every weekend and eyeing people up in bars but find it hard to discover other ways of meeting people. Am I just in a place that is too small and conservative to meet my type of people? Is it my age that is limiting me? I dont really like much younger men. would it be a good enough reason to move even if everything else was going well?
Is he cheating?
By: concerned | 13-07-2008
My boyfriend is always accusing me of cheating on him and not being at home when i say that i am going there. he is always starting fights and telling me that i dont really love him that i am just playing him. and when he starts these fights he always ends up telling me to go home and then telling me that i am not really at home when i am. then if i try and call him he ignores my calls and texts but will say that he "didn't hear his phone or that the text didn't come thru until hours later". and for days he will still ignore my calls and only call me about the time i get out of work just to find out where i am at but anyother time he wants to have nothing to do with me until he wants something or wants to know something. he always knows where i am at all the time..and the majority of the time i am at his house if i am not at work unless he tells me to go home. but when he goes places its i have things to take care of or i have errands i have to run....Could all this be signs that he is cheating?
Love sick
By: Strawberry :) | 13-07-2008
What to do when you have a man in your life loving you giving you all the attention you could ever want, sexing you right, taking you everywhere you want to go, (well at least trying to) but then you find that you have no time for yourself because he smothering you with all this love? You then try to tell him to back off and give you a little space he finally do then you end up alone because now he find things to do in his spare time. Now you wishing hooping and praying that one day you can get his time again?
I'm in love with a girl who has a man, what do I do?
By: Emmitt01 | 13-07-2008
I work with this drop dead gorgeous girl that i am madly in love with and we are just getting to know each other but she has a boyfriend. She revealed to me that they never go out because he always wants to play sports and she watches him play all day long. I have never had any problems talking to girls until now because I am no where as good looking as she is I mean if I got her it would be the biggest miracle ever. I want to see her happy and never sad but I feel she would be happiest with me, I don't believe in breaking up a relationship unless it is necessary but this is one time I cant stop thinking about her and breaking her and her boyfriend up so she can be mine. What do I do?
What does it mean when a guy says he is involved?
By: shelly | 12-07-2008
what does it mean when a guy says he is involved?
Article Research: heartfelt opinion requested on ...
By: janedoechronicles | 12-07-2008
Article Research: heartfelt opinion requested on love, and relationships from the "male" viewpoint.What is the male reality?Men are able to separate sex from love; some not. Describe the perfect woman you would like in your life if you could create her . . . And why.Don't tell me what you think I want to hear, please dig deep into your heart and approach this question as if you could have the woman of your dreams. -- That one person you have searched for - the one you can't get out of your heart or erase from your mind. Your Soul Mate!
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