5 Types of Guys to Avoid

Have you been looking for Mr. Right?  If so, you may want to file some of the following information in your memory bank.  There are certain types of guys you want to avoid.  You want to be able to recognize them so that as soon as they reveal their true character, you can understand what you’re dealing with.  Who are the ones to stay away from?  Mr. Right will not be among the guys who are:

• Jealous
• Desperate
• Users
• Victims
• Nutty

1. Mr. Jealous

This guy is one tick away from being an abuser.  If he wants to know where you’ve been, who you’ve been with, and why you went out, and his inquiry has a touch of resentment or irritation in it, you want to exit this relationship before it begins.  Jealousy for no discernible reason masks deeper problems, like uncontrollable insecurity or rage.  You never know when this sleeping dragon will raise its head and roar, but knowing that it’s there makes you cautious about your every move.  If you live with this type of behavior long enough, you will forget how to be spontaneous, how to have friends, and how to follow your dreams.

1. Mr. Desperate

This person has few, if any, friends.  He is emotionally needy, clinging to you like Velcro.  He wants to be with you every minute, and if you believe him, he’ll make you think this is love.  What he needs is your battery power because he doesn’t have any of his own.  Without friends, hobbies he’s passionate about, or a fulfilling career, he has nothing to source.  He’s looking for a girlfriend to give him a reason to live.  Mr. Desperate can’t really love anyone because he doesn’t care enough about himself to have a life with some degree of happiness in it.  If you try to be his “everything”—as he wants you to be—he’ll soon begin to find lots of things wrong with you because you aren’t making him “happy.”  Mr. Desperate needs to find himself first before he looks for someone else.

1. Mr. User

Of all the guys out there you want to avoid, this one can be the hardest to spot.  First of all, there are lots of users, cruising for a Sugar Mama to take care of them.  They are clever, charming, complimentary, and attentive.  They have perfected their act of looking and sounding good.  They’re probably attractive, well dressed, and slim.  They know what works.  They have a good story to tell:  Their breakup or their divorce wasn’t their fault and all you have to do is love them unconditionally to make up any past hurts from others.  According to them, you are the only good thing that’s ever happened to them.  Once they have you hooked, the financial opportunity OR hard-luck story starts.  They have a great investment in racehorses they want you to know about.  Or: they lost their job, someone embezzled their money, they’re behind in child support payments and if they don’t make them, they’ll never see their child again.  They usually don’t ask for financial assistance because they don’t have to.  You offer it.  Whatever their approach, they’re after your money.  Save it, along with your time, and the love you can have with someone who can give you a mutual relationship.

1. Mr. Victim

No matter what happens to this guy, it’s never his fault.  His boss is unfair, his ex was unfair, and the world is unfair—especially to him.  He has a corner on the market of suffering.  No matter what you do; no matter how many problems you solve for him, his life will always be a crisis.  Your plan of operation should be self-protective: don’t get caught in the web of trying to fix his life.

1. Mr. Nutty

We’ve all met someone like this before, but sometimes, we aren’t aware of it right away.  You have to decide to what degree the nuttiness is and if you find it tolerable.  Then, you have to watch to see just how nutty the person actually is.  If Mr. Nutty has weapons and drugs, this isn’t quirky—it’s dangerous.  But if you find his puppets, toy soldiers, or cages of snakes and spiders charming, that’s an individual matter you’ll have to decide works for you—or not.  As long as Nutty is kind, sweet-tempered, self-supporting, and lovable—and is nutty about you—maybe it deserves more time.

Mr. Right can come in all kinds of packaging, but it’s what’s inside the wrapping paper that matters.  Don’t be fooled by the surface presentation.  The best way to discover what he’s about is to meet some of his friends and family.  That will fill in the missing puzzle pieces.  It’s always a good idea to be—a SAVVY DATER.