A Step-By-Step Guide to Dating

Posted: Apr 12, 2011 |

It's going to be hard to get all of the steps that you need if you want to be successful getting dates and having those dates go well, but I am going to try and do my best to give an abridged version of what works. These are going to the basics, so don't get the wrong idea and assume that you are going to see some advanced dating techniques or anything like that. Still, as a primer, this article should be able to help get you closer to the right track and allow you to see better results than what you may be seeing right now. Let's get into it, shall we?

Here's a step by step guide to dating that should be of some use to you:

Step 1. No matter what 'they' say, your appearance must be a priority.

No one expects you to look like you just walked out of a fashion photo shoot or anything like that, but if you think that rolling right out of bed and throwing on the first pair of pants and shirt you can find is the way to go... think again! Yeah, that can work if you are trying to pull off the frustrated slacker look, but if you want to really have your dating game in gear, then you have to work on your appearance. Do the basics: clean crisp clothes, good grooming, fresh breath. Don't expect that your date is going to not judge you at all by the way you look, because, well- that's what people do. Even if it is just a little bit.

Step 2. Try to have some topics already in mind that you can bring up, things that are light and fun.

One of the biggest sticking points that both men and women have when they are out on a date, is the conversation. If you don't have anything to talk about, then you better be a Brad Pitt or Angelina Joline clone to pull that off and still look good. Just try and get a few topics of conversation that you already have in mind that you can use to start and carry a conversation. Make sure the topics are on the lighter side, you don't want to debate politics or talk about religious things or even boring work banter. That kind of conversation can kill a date fast.

Step 3. Be sure to show that you are polite, without going overboard on it.

Politeness is one of those universal things that just about everybody appreciates. No one sets out to go on a date with a self centered person, or someone that doesn't give a hoot about anyone else but themselves and you can show that you are not like that with just a little bit of politeness. Just be sure that you don't go overboard and bend over backwards to show how 'polite' you are. That can kind of give off the impression that you are being fake, and it can work against you.

Step 4. Try and choose a place to meet up or an activity to do that is not the typical dinner and a movie kind of date.

Everyone has been on the generic, let's meet at a restaurant or catch a movie and have a meal kind of date. If you want to really give off a good impression and create a memory that lasts, try and pick something that they may not be expecting, but will have a good time doing. For example, if you know that the person you are going on a date with really enjoys comedy and there is a comedy club nearby, you can choose to use that as your place to meet. It's really not that far removed from the generic dating thing, but it's different enough to make you stand out.

Step 5. Try not to be too judgmental, especially if it is the first date that you are on with someone.

First dates suck for most people, it's just the way the dating game goes. You get all nervous about saying the right things, hoping that the other person likes you, etc. Keep that in mind and try not to be too judgmental about the person you are on a date with. Chances are, they feel the same nervousness that you do, and they are just trying to do their best to make a good impression on you.

Step 6. Don't get too hung up on just one person, until you have been seeing them for a while or the sparks are really flying.

One thing that both men and women share, is that they both have a tendency to end up getting hung up on one person a little too much or too quickly, and that can be a bad thing. You have a good date, you work up all of these ideas and images in your mind that they MUST be the one... and if they don't want to go out again- you feel crushed by them. Steer yourself away from making this mistake until you have been with them for a while or you just get that feeling that there is an unusual amount of chemistry between the two of you.

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