We all know that body language counts for 97% of our communication yet most of us focus on our core outer game learning techniques, lines, and one line gambits.
Is this you?
There's nothing wrong with doing that ... however if that's ALL you doing we'll need to work on this...
"Using body language to attract women" is a lot more difficult put into practice than said as it takes a few months at least to calibrate and 'unlearn' bad body language.
Have you ever seen attractive hot women around not so good looking guys?
Of course you have! so what are they doing that I'm not was what I asked myself many years ago.
Notice how the way they present themselves, the way they stand and hold themselves, how they speak to women, authoritatively, firm yet also kind and friendly like.
This is all in their body language and this includes:
-Stance; facing girls to eagerly and early on conveys "needy rapport seeking behavior" so occasionally back turn and point your feet in another direction.
Always keep your back straight, shoulders back, chest out, groin out, stomach in (do I sound like a drill instructor) : )
-Eye contact; don't STARE as this is creepy, however dont look around and avoid eye contact, and make sure you blink. I've met guys who don't blink and it's a little off putting, I'm sure this dries your eyes out too.
-Touch the girls!; if you dont touch them then it'll convey your not comfortable touching women, women dont want this kind of guy, women want men that are comfortable around them. The trick here is to treat them like a friend ...
-Voice tonality; be LOUD, the biggest stepping stone in my game was the strength of my voice. The louder I became I noticed I was holding my interactions for a lot longer.
How would you treat a mate of yours? Exactly!
It comes down to finding a balance because being a total dick yelling at women won't get you laid, however being too nice and rapport seeking definitely wont get you laid (you know this already) so where is this balance you ask?
It comes down to practice and observation then more practice.
Body Language Tips #1
The first tip is to be as RELAXED as you can, imagine a sudden calm coming over you, take a deep breath and exhale over 5 seconds. If your relaxed it'll help you feel more "in the moment" and your body language will communicate this. You will also have much better and longer interactions with women.
Remember when talking to women you've just met dont give them too much attention, keep your frame strong and upward (dont slouch), and speak from your diaphragm so your voice is deep and LOUD.
Body Language Tips #2
Treat them like a mate. If your mate says something funny you would laugh and slap them on the back (gently). Why should this be any different to a woman?
If you want her to feel comfortable in your presence you have to SHOW that you're comfortable by displaying you're not afraid to treat her like a buddy.
Body Language Tips #3
Take up space. Have you ever noticed that the body language of high status males is relaxed and 'sprawling', they take up a lot of space. High status men are not afraid to taking up other peoples room, they sit with their legs apart, their arms unfolded and look like they're sitting in their living room. This ideally should be the way you are sitting.
You will have to fake it until you make it.
Body Language Tips #4
SMILE and keep your body language positive. Try to keep your posture open, your arms and legs unfolded, your chin up and move slowly. Imagine you're under water ideally that's how slow you should be moving.
Talk soon!
Alex
www.alexcoulson.com
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