That’s right. Don’t wait until you’re so lonely or desperate or horny to start looking for a new partner. Get serious about it now! Too often we read ads that sound really sad and we feel bad that someone has waited so long that they come across desperate for a date. The ads that say they just want a person, doesn’t matter how tall, what size, what location, any looks, any nationality or any race, just write and quickly.
That person is NOT going to get a reply. Why not? Because there are so many other upbeat ads to choose from. Nobody is going to answer a depressing ad if they have a better choice, so if you’re guilty of writing an ad when you’ve been a bit down, it’s time to write a new ad.
Wait until you’re in a good mood and you’re able to smile and write from your heart. What about what you did last weekend for fun? What about what you plan to do in the future? What about plans for vacation or holidays? What about a book you just read? What about a craft you’re working on? What about a sex toy you just tried out? What about a new outfit you bought that makes you feel terrific? What about your favorite dinner at your favorite restaurant?
I wrote that in about a minute and I could come up with another 50 ideas just as easily. It’s all about what interests you have that might match with another person. Get something to talk about and you’re halfway there. I know people think that writing is difficult but it’s not if you start out with one idea. Let’s say you decide to write about what you did last weekend. Here’s an idea:
“Trying to be fit 40ish guy seeks average to round woman of a similar age. Last weekend I went to a play at our local theatre to see “Pirates of Penzance” and then got a late dinner at Regas Restaurant - next time it would be great if you went with me - interested?”That might not seem like a great ad to you but it’s a helluva lot better than, “lonely guy wants to fuck.”
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