Complete Guide to Getting Your Ex Back - for Boyfriends and Girlfriends (the Phone Call Technique)

It's been months you two have been together as the happiest couple in the World. Then, one day you have an argument over an issue and he or she walks out the door. What do you do?

Whether you are a man or woman, you are going to be under a big emotional shock. You will feel like you lost the most important thing you ever had. Listening to the love songs on the radio makes you cry. You don't feel like eating, you don't feel like doing anything, you just want to lie down and think about the time you were together.

Suddenly, you get an urge, an urge to have your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back, even if you have to beg him or her. So you pick up your mobile phone and send a text asking for forgiveness. You waited 2 minutes and no reply, so you text again, and again, and again, but in vain.

You decide it's better you call, but the phone is ringing and no one is picking up. You make several missed calls and leave messages filled with your depression on the voice mail. Why is he or she not replying?

The answer to the above question is simple. You are only pushing your ex further away by acting depressed. Even if you are depressed, don't show it. Stand up and be strong, you dont want him or her to come back to you out of pity, do you?

You have already done the mistake of flooding your ex's phone with your texts or shown your depression in the voice messages you left on the voicemail. It's not too late, you can still get him or her back. Believe me, getting your ex back is possible.

If you want to get your ex back, you have to use the principles of human behaviour to your advantage, namely curiosity and self interest. Some may argue that this is a bit unethical. To be frank with you, I don't care. For me, everything is fair in love! When I'm in love with the other person and I want him or her back in my life but I am not able to convey my message the way I should, then why not use these principles to get the love of my life back.

Curiosity and self interest are what will make your ex call you back. Maybe you have heard this before that people desire what don't have or can't have easily the most. The same applies for relationships. You have to make your ex feel that he or she can't have you back easily.

"Hi Andy, it's me Paula. I just want to say that I appreciate what you have done for me and I want to thank you for that"

The above is an example of a line which triggers the curiosity and self interest of the ex (Andy). At the same, you (Paula) appear to be strong and confident (that is, no begging for forgiveness etc...).