Dating Relationship:The Power of Instinct

You are out on a date and everything is going great. The conversation is sparkling and the attraction factor is increasing by the minute. No doubt about it: the future is so bright that the both of you may have to wear shades.

So why is your intuition going off like a ten alarm fire bell. You try to dismiss it as nothing more than nerves. Indeed the date ends and you are chomping at the bit to do it all over again. Still that nagging feeling you have in the pit of your stomach will not go away. What do you do?

Yes talking it over with a close friend or family member may help but the chances are if you are confiding in more than one person you will probably get a myriad of responses and opinions. Besides they know less about the situation than you do. There is a tendency for many of us to try and convince ourselves that some outside source has the answer to all of our questions. True they may have experience a similar situation that could possibly serve as a guide for you to consider. But the bottom line is they can only help you up to a point.

That is not to say that detachment in evaluating someone else's problem has no value; it does. However in the final analysis, there is only one person who can make the decision and give you the answer you are looking for. As you have already guessed, that person is you.

Nobody can fully understand the rhyme or reason when it comes to instinct. All your senses tell you that the other person is terrific but the tiny little voice somewhere inside of you keeps saying no. In the world we live in the majority usually rules but when it comes to a dating relationship it is probably best to give that tiny voice the final word on whether you continue dating the other person.

Instincts have a way of picking up on things which on the surface are not so obvious to you or other people. Can instincts be wrong? Yes but more often than not following our instincts has steered many of us away from disastrous situations. How many times have we heard the stories of someone who was going to get on an airplane but at the last minute followed their instincts and decided against it? All too often they were proven right.

The moral of the story is better safe than sorry. That is not to say that your relationship will end badly or even to imply the other person has some sinister hidden motives. In the long run it may come down to simply not being compatible.

The point is to trust yourself enough to believe you have the answer to your own situation. Keep in mind also that your instinct is not trying to put a damper on your love life. More than you may realize, it only has your best interest at heart.