Dating Seeking - Men, Can you Handle Dating Conversation?

The first date is very important and you both will form opinions about each from your first impressions of the date.  Conversation is a vital part of that first impression.  For the dating seeking men out there, it’s important to know that women like to talk, in case you didn’t already know that!  Take it from a woman, we speak twice as many words per day as you, men do.  However, women do tend to be better listeners than men.  So, where does that leave you guys?

It leaves you with a very important responsibility on this first date.  You need to allow your date to steal the show on this date.  She’s already suspicious of you just because you’re a man.  Yes, I’m sorry to say, but women tend to be more leery about men on the first date than vice versa.  Let’s face it, guys; women are afraid of meeting a great guy only to find out that he is a psycho.  The first date is a test for you from the minute you show up and since conversation is high on her list, make sure you get good at it.

Don’t monopolize the conversation, but let her talk.  Be charming in a genuine way.  Show her that you really do want to listen to what she’s saying.  If you monopolize the conversation, she will be listening to you but she’ll be losing interest really quickly.  Pay attention to the conversation topics, too.  Unless she’s a sports fan, don’t talk sports.  Let her lead the conversation and follow her lead with what she wants to talk about.

If you can give her quality focused attention, she will love you; let me repeat, love you.  One of the biggest complaints women have is that her man does not listen to her.  She’ll say something and he will be watching TV or focusing on something else and won’t even remember what she said.  That’s why women tend to want to chat with their girlfriends because women know how to listen to each other.

When you talk, give her vital information about yourself.  Woman are interested in people not football statistics.  Show her you’re interested by reciprocating and sharing information about yourself.  If you hear her speak about something that is also an interest of yours, piggyback on that as well and let her know you like to do the same thing.  She will feel a connection and that is what you are trying to do.  You are in a dating seeking situation and your trying to find a love.  It takes some discipline, but you’ll be able to hold your own in a dating conversation with a woman if you work at the rules.