Finding you match after thirty: separation and online dating

Being on a dating market is never easy. This is particularly true if you are well over thirty and if you were forced to it by some nasty turns in your life. But don’t despair. This happens to the best of us. One moment you can be in a wonderful relationship. And the next moment – bam you find yourself single again. And it does not have to be your fault at all. Without being sexist, most of us girls know that men can be very cruel.

What’s next? Look at this logically. You are well over thirty. You have some previous relationships baggage. You career is probably going well. However, from the relationship point of view, this only means that you are unlikely to settle for a single available student with unclear life plans. You already need a man who has achieved something. A man who can love you, care about you, and understand your life and your needs. The problem is that most men of with such qualities are already taken. Most of them have families and kids, while you find yourself searching for your special person.

Basically, the situation sucks. You suddenly feel like Bridget Jones, but slightly older. You will probably jump at as many people as you can, eventually going through a chain of unsuccessful affairs with random people. This always helps to get over your separation and to realise that being single “once again” can be quite liberating. However, the pointlessness of such a strategy will soon dawn upon you. After a few disappointing rebound relationships you will want something meaningful and serious.

Where to turn? Many of us try to go to receptions and parties with a view of finding their match. This works but this strategy isn’t very well targeted. There are plenty of married people and couples at such parties. It really sucks, for example, to get to know a seemingly single guy and hear him mentioning his wife two hours after your meeting. You feel like a prize idiot blowing her last chance! You also feel stupid for treating him as the ‘last chance’.

Online dating, on the other hand, is targeted. It gathers people who are still looking. Of course, there are plenty of those who are in a relationship and just want to spice up their lives. Still, they are exceptions rather than rules. Most online dating sites are full of people who are genuinely in a similar situation to yours. Don’t forget: this happens to the best of us.

So, if you were sceptical about online dating opportunities, perhaps, this is the time to explore new pastures. My only advice: find a nice dating agency. Join something worthwhile. Join an agency that has a proven record of compiling a substantial database of people who are genuine about finding their match. Have a look at some review sites. I recommend Top Dating Search . This site compiles some leading online agencies. So you can take your pick. I wish everyone good luck and hope that every single girl would eventually find the love of her life.