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What a woman looks for in a man will obviously depend on the woman but, if you are looking to impress that special lady, there are general attributes and qualities that women find appealing and some that are a definite turn-off. Here are five things that a typical woman looks for in a man:
Protection
Although the concept of the man repelling assailants and keeping trouble at bay by his physical presence is now, thankfully, outdated, a woman will not expect her man to hide behind her at the first sign of trouble. Instead of the concept of taking up one's sword and making a stand now read arguing with authorities, standing up for one's rights and generally 'looking out' for one's family.
Humour
Women take a much longer term view of a relationship than men and so will be considering the problem of 'what happens after the initial attraction has evaporated?'. A sense of humour should survive the years and not just fizzle out with the end of youth. Besides which, don't we all enjoy being with someone who can make us smile?
Status
Women are incredibly competitive. They want to be seen to have landed the prize fish and not some cast-off. This is why some men have women fawning all over them - Woman B wants him because Woman A does and Woman C feels jealous of Woman A and Woman B and so on. Status in this context means desirability and the best form of recommendation is third-party approbation. In other words if other women are or are likely to be jealous then their mate has been a good catch and is worth keeping.
Security
This element of a relationship is perhaps less important with the advent of equal pay and opportunity and the demise of the dowry but it still valid. A woman looks to her man to support her and any children while she is looking after domestic matters. A good job and strong work ethic count a lot in the eyes of a woman seeking a mate.
Parental Aptitude
Perhaps the woman has children already or perhaps she is hoping to have a family. Either way, she needs someone who is responsible and who can be trusted to bring up the children with her. She doesn't want excitement, charm or a smooth tongue, she needs reliability and a firm but fair hand with which to instil a sense of correctness in the next generation.
If you don't feel you have all these qualities then perhaps you should reflect on what is missing and why. If you do then you could have what a woman looks for in a man.
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