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When you haven't had time to prepare yourself for your first date and all else is failing, go for diversion tactics.
The last thing you want is for an anxious or negative thought to enter your mind. You know you're doomed as soon as you start thinking, she's too good for you, or I'm going to stuff up here, or I hope I don't make a real fool of myself here.
As soon as you allow your anxious thoughts to enter your mind, you're likely to experience the anxious symptoms of racing heart beat, hard to breathe, lump in throat, stuttering, flustered, racing thoughts, butterflies in your tummy.
All the things you don't want to experience because you want to have a good chance of taking things further with this woman. These symptoms are not only irritating and feel unpleasant but they are also holding you back from enjoying the moment and getting everything you possibly can from it.
So what do I exactly mean by diversion tactics? I mean distracting your mind, changing your thinking, what ever it takes to prevent any negative or anxious thoughts to enter.
It takes time to learn this trick, but once you can master it, it can save your backside in a lot of anxiety building situations. Not just approaching women.
I'll even use it when I'm placed in a situation with someone I don't particularly like. It helps prevent me from getting myself worked up when it really isn't necessary and those feelings don't do much to help me feel good do they? And I know that I like to feel good, as often as possible.
Diversion Tactics you could use:
- Chew gum
- Suck on lollies
- Place something in your hands to play with
- Sing a song you know off by heart in your head
- Recite the alphabet in your head
- Put all of your concentration into doing just one thing, and solely one thing
- Create a difficult sum in your head and try figure out the answer
- Think of what you got to do next week at work
- Think of a funny joke you love
- Try to remember what you did last Tuesday
It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it isn't an anxious or negative thought! That will only make you feel worse, and self doubt yourself, you don't want to do that!
If you use these tactics I have described, you should definitely reduce your anxiety when approaching woman, if not completely eliminate anxiety all together.
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