Cherry Norris is a renowned celebrity dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. Based in Los Angeles, California, Cherry is an official dating coach for Cupid's Coach matchmaking service and the relationship expert on Catherine Oxenberg's TV pilot, Practical Princess. She has lead workshops around the US and on cruises to Mexico and Alaska. She has been featured in The LA Times, The Hollywood Reporter, Divine Caroline, and Women's World. Cherry's passion is helping people build healthy, intimate romantic relationships. Under her direction, you will learn the skills and techniques for dating that will have you starring in the role of a lifetime opposite the co-star you've been waiting for! For a Free "Dating Directions" newsletter and event calendar go here: Free Dating Directions
It doesn't take a brain surgeon to diagnosis if a man isn't calling you...he's probably not into you.
In the romantic comedy, "He's Just Not That Into You", a film based on Greg Behrendt's popular self-help book, a gorgeous ensemble in various stages of relationships quest to find true love.
Although the film is fun to watch, it doesn't give you much tangible dating advice.
Like, if he's not into you...then what?
Or if he WAS into you but now he's not...what happened?
Or can you get him into you...and if so, how?
Here are three ideas:
1. If He's Not Into You...Then What?
Move on.
Like the book says...if he's not into you...don't waste your time.
Meaning if he's not calling, he's not pursuing, he's not inviting you out...you're on to "next"!
This is easier said than done.
Often you can't help replaying the date (or the relationship) over and over and over again in your head trying to analyze and figure out what happened and WHY isn't he into you. Especially when he acted so nice!
It's maddening.
Don't take it personally. Because it's not. He can't help who his body chooses.
Brush yourself off, go back out there and find someone who is into you!
2. He WAS Into You, but Now He's Not...What Happened?
If he was into you but now he's acting distant...
And calling you less...
And only inviting you over for a little late night booty...
Chances are something did happen.
Was it something you said? Maybe.
Was it something you did? Maybe.
My guess is if he was into you and now he's not...one of two things happened:
First, the guy pulled a "bait and switch". He baited you with compliments and attention, got you all sexually bonded and feeling good...then "switched" by stopping his pursuit and now sits back waiting for you to call to invite him over and basically do all the work.
(This is not a good guy...move on!)
Second, you started going competitive with him. You started making plans. You started taking over. You became the better man and he may have felt he couldn't offer you anything. And what he was giving you was not appreciated.
This is a good guy.
If you are dating a guy like this right now this minute, practice saying, "yes, thank you, please..." for everything he does for you. Everything!
3. Can You Get Him Into You? If So, How?
Maybe.
If you don't turn him on sexually...probably not.
If you do turn him on, you can guide him to be REALLY into you...if you know how! :)
You can keep him wanting you more and more. It takes ingenuity and skill. But you can cleverly guide a man to give, protect and cherish you like you'd never believe possible IF you know how to do it.
Women are the spiritual leaders on the planet. In general, men are more simple minded (not an insult...it's the way a man's brain is designed). When a woman knows how to artfully guide a man to become a better man, everybody wins.
And yes...not only will he be into you, he will stay into you!
Sound good?
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