How To Attract Women, With Ease (The Disastrous Pickup Line)

Why is it true that some men can attract women with ease while other men have hard time relating to women? Who do some men try to learn pickup lines and others have Natural Charm

We often go out to places like a bar, cafe' or a nightclub and see some men having great time while others standing next to the bar, or the speakers holding their drink watching others having fun. To put it more frankly, some people are just having it all while others are having nothing. Of course there are others in between those extreme points. What is intriguing about this is that loners are in fact nice people. Some of them might be very interesting as well. Why are they loners then? This doesn't make sense, does it?

Here is the trick. The only difference between LONERS and CHARMERS is this; loners are inside themselves and charmers are outside themselves. Loners have an inward focus during social situations while charmers have outward focus. Because loners are not sure of themselves and have low self-appreciation, they tend to stay inwardly focused. They are not sure if they are worthy enough to be involved with others in social interactions.

HERE IS WHAT THE MIND LINES OF THE LONER LOOKS LIKE,

"If I say this, would she or he find it funny or awkward",

"Why shall I go talk to those people, they don't know me",

"This beautiful girl over there must have a boy friend and will reject me if I approach her, and if I get rejected everyone will see that and think this and that about me",

And the list never ends, But HERE IS WHAT THE MIND LINES OF THE CHARMER LOOKS LIKE,

"I am wondering who is the luck lady who will get to meet me tonight"

Or something along this cocky line, and That's about it.

Charmers don't have much mind lines as much as you think. They have few but powerful ones. Loners on the other hand, have many disastrous mind lines and that is why they are loners. Their minds are full of poisonous thoughts. Even social people like me and you, might have poisonous mind lines every now and then. How often we have those poisonous lines and how we deal with them is the challenge.

This is why some men can charm everyone with ease (not just women), while others can die looking for the magical pickup line that will give them enough confidence to walk up to a woman and start a conversation with her. Isn't it sad to have confidence in a line more than you have in yourself ?

What's funny is that charming men have tons of "lines". These are their smooth lines. They aren't really pickup lines but more of conversational style and vocabulary that they have acquired through interactions with others. The Loner however, isolates himself from social interactions then hopes that he could learn a magical pickup line from a pickup artist to use it on the next woman he meets. It never works that way, does it?

The fundamental difference between a charmer and a loner is their approach to life. The charmer has a totally different mental mechanism than what the loner has. This mental mechanism is cultivated over time. It is not that simple that you can overlook it by using a magical pickup line.

What charmers do is one thing and that is; always seeking the best mental habits. This is the core philosophy of Natural Charm. To find out more about the philosophy of Natural Charm, check out the ABN BOOK